How about this scenario:
“Excuse me, can you move over a seat.”
“No, I’m comfortable where I am.”
“MOVE! I SAID MOVE NOW BECAUSE I WANT TO SIT WHERE YOU ARE SITTING!”
“O.K.”
When the fuck did I say it was candy-assed to let someone by to go to the bathroom?
In many houses, there is more than one path to the guest bathroom. Why move when you can be all big and tough about your right to block one of the access routes?
Where are you getting this bathroom thing from. The OP was asked to move her seat in the theater, not let someone pass to go to the bathroom. I’m not saying what you think I’m saying.
Let’s do this again. Slowly. For clarity’s sake.
You are in your seat in a movie theater that you came early enough to pick because you like it. Someone comes in much later and asks you to move. You don’t want to. You say yes anyway because, well, they ask me so I better jump right to it! You are a candy-ass.
You are in your seat in a movie theater. Someone asks you to move your legs so they can get by. You move your legs. Not a candy-ass.
I’m making it up, dumbass. It is a scenario specifically created to highlight the ridiculousness and asshole-ery of your
position.
If I designed the seating arrangement to increase my chances of not having people sit next to me, and the seats are not assigned, and my plan “failed”, then yes, I would move because, again, life is rarely so short that you can’t take the time to be polite.
Anyone who moves from their seat is a wimp.
You’re missing the fact that life is too short to let asshats get under your skin.
Yeah, she didn’t have to do jack for anyone. Even if they hadn’t told her to move and they kept asking in meek little baby voices, she would still be within her rights to say no.
But if she had said “yes”, everyone could have enjoyed the freakin’ movie. There would have been no nasty scene, no distractions for innocent bystanders just trying to enjoy the show, and no dramedy to post about on the interwebs.
Maybe I’m a wuss, but I just don’t have a burning desire to be “right” all the time. Especially if it’s over a freakin’ seat in a movie theater.
Candy-ass? It is called common courtesy. And it was a reasonable request for her to optimize the use of the four seats. I cannot imagine saying no. I would never do that. And if I did, it would probably be because I had a very good reason not to and I would specify that to the requesting people. I wouldn’t decline because I don’t want to give up a little elbow room.
How did you plan failed? What plan? What are you on about? If someone asks you to move and you feel like moving, then move that is your prerogative. The OP didn’t feel like moving. That was her prerogative. The candy-assness comes from the need to do what perfect strangers tell you to do because you don’t want no trouble.
The stranger is asking you to do something. You can accommodate them if you wish. This doesn’t make you a candy-ass, if you don’t mind moving. But if you are happy in your seat and don’t want to move but you move anyway instead of politely saying, “No”, then you are a candy-ass.
If you mean “no”, say “no”.
Completely agree. I’m amazed that people think that its rude for her stay where she was.
The other couple could have moved to the front or sat on either side of the OP and her SO. If it was that important for them to sit together in the back of the theater, they needed to get there earlier.
But why did she have to inconvenience herself when there were plenty of other seats in the theatre?
This is what is killing me. She didn’t want to say yes, so she didn’t. She didn’t ruin anyone’s night. How is any of this her fault? She was asked, she said no. Wow, what a bitch! She should have done exactly as she was told by some rude strangers and everyone would have been happier.
It is not because I want no trouble. It is because it is the moral, right, and nice thing to do. I want them to enjoy their experience as they did pay for their tickets.
Haven’t read the whole thread. Has anyone compared the OP to Hitler, a Serial Killer or The Worst Human On Earth yet? C’mon, it’s the Dope. You know someone will make that equivalence.
Good for you. You move when they “ask”. The OP wanted to sit in the seat she chose. She didn’t move when “asked”. Good for her.
This times 10.
The reason why we cling to the buffer zone theory is that it’s the only thing that makes any sense. If this is not about the buffer zone, then I must conclude that the OP is either insane or a terrible person.
Wanting a buffer zone is understandable. It’s a desire that makes sense. It actually is nice to have some space between you and your fellow movie patrols. I can completely sympathize with getting territorial about a buffer zone, even if in the end you have no right to. That’s a reasonable impulse, and higher order thinking doesn’t always win out. I get buffer zones.
Vigorously objecting to the act of moving 18 inches? That’s nuts. That crazy. That makes no sense. That’s what I expect of a four year old who has just learned the word “no,” or someone with deep and abiding control issues. That’s not normal. That’s not sane. Moving over 18 inches is not a burden. That’s an objective fact. It’s not a big deal. It’s not even a deal. It’s a nothing, a blip on your existence, an absolutely mundane zero-impact event. To get at all heated up about that straight up banana crazy-folk business.
The other explanation would be that the OP is a terrible person who is pretended to get heated up about moving over 18 inches in order to feed some kind of darkness in her heart. It implies getting joy out of denying people small courtesies that cost you next to nothing.
I doubt the OP is a terrible person or batshit, so it’s in charity that I conclude she must have wanted some extra elbow room.
Not yet but we’re getting there. She’s now a terrible person who is either batshit or has some sort of blackness in the pit of her heart. For not moving 18 inches.
MOL, please stop posting on the Dope. It’s a simple request that most polite, upstanding, considerate people would do. And if you do not want to do this thing that you have no obligation to do then you are a giant dickhead and a petulant little dickface.
How are you always wrong. How does that happen.