So calling someone “fat” or “obese” as a criticism is a ** VERY BAD THING ** on these boards. Even if the rant/discussion involves a completely different, and often interesting topic the thread will inevitably change into a “My God you insensitive bastard/bitch you just called that person FAT. You are going to hell–go directly to hell–do not past go–do not collect $200.” Sometimes I agree that the use of the term was egregious, sometimes I don’t and wish people could just let it go.
But, this is not to address those posts…those are just my personal opinions and what brought me to today’s bitch session. I usually try to be politically correct, and I don’t make comments about people’s weight. If a person is actually fat, I usually assume there’s probably a good reason for it…thyroid, disability, whacked-out metabolism. I have friends that suffer from these things…not everyone can have the metabolism of a hummingbird…it’s cool. So, it’s not even me attempting to be PC…I generally think it’s silly to make assumptions about people’s weight.
That said, there is an individual in this office who is very obese. When I first met him I thought he was an ass for darn good reasons not involving his appearance. But, he is so large his ripples have ripples…he sweats when he has to walk from one end of the office to the other. He is NOT disabled in any way aside from the weight. He makes comments about other individuals’ weight and fitness level…smug comments. But MY GOD THIS BOY CAN PUT AWAY THE GROCERIES. Fried chicken, fried pies, french fries, burgers, cheesecake…he eats enough for a small army. He is doing this to himself. Which I would ignore, except, we get occasional treats in the office. Someone will bring in a cake or pie or donuts and leave them in the break-room. Inevitably, he takes 3-4 times his fair share leaving the rest of us with nothing. Mind you he makes WAY more money than the rest of us little peons… So, some kind soul brought in the heaven that is Krispy Kreme donuts the other day. There were problably enough for everyone in the office to have 1…maybe. Well this gentleman came in, grabbed a plate and took 3 donuts. He did not share these with anyone…rather he took them into his office and consumed them one by one. Then, he RETURNED for 2 MORE! Several folks went without because of him. (Not me, but my secretary).
So…I got pissed, I know it’s petty, but this job sucks and we all deserve a little happiness in the form of a donut and he brings us a lot of unhappiness. I asked him why he took more than his fair share, “you don’t need that many.” Cruel yes, but deserved. He FLIPPED OUT…“Why are you making comments about my weight…I was hungry…I eat more…what’s the problem.” He asked me if I couldn’t be more sensitive to his weight. He then continued to be whiny about his weight and threatened to tell my boss that I picked on him because of his weight.
Shit, I think that I may have been a bit insensitive, but GROW UP AND STOP TAKING EVERYONE ELSE’S FOOD!!!
GAHHHHH. I quit…there comes a point where you should be able to mention weight without being condemned for it.
I know there was a recent thread regarding this issue, but I think these circumstance are different.