There is a tendency to underestimate the amount of time in-person couples spend together … by those around them as well as the two themselves. I won’t make any estimates about it, but within days of meeting fizzy online, I was talking to her 15+ hours a day and not getting tired of it (I got sleepy, what from doing one 20 hour day with her, but not tired of her by any means). We spent a LOT of time online together within the first few months, and as things worked out they … well, worked out:D
I make no guesses or assumptions about your relationship, Flami, but bear in mind that a couple who are also going to the same school end up spending several hours together, and those little meetings in the hall or in the bus or the lunchroom can be invigorating (just getting a minute or two to say hi and run nekkid thru the AIM window gave me my fizzy fix for a few hours at least). Obviously you won’t have those with your boy. My suggestion would be to send little emails or something similarly easy but thoughtful. They don’t have to contain secrets to cold fusion or nekkid pictures of the Swedish bikini team, but they can mean more to some people than you might think.
Now for the less fun parts. Don’t depend on this guy for all your social interaction, because he isn’t and he shouldn’t be. People who say “Oh, I could never get involved/fall in love/etc. online” and sometimes worse “People who can [do what I just described] are messed up” or similar situations I won’t outline here … you’re not carrying a sign that says you’re one of those online romance people, so they don’t know not to say so. A cow-orker of mine said last week that she didn’t understand how anyone could [fall in love/date someone they met online/etc]. I simply said “met my fiancee online” with a smile and walked away, which I think left her feeling a little silly.
Not every such encounter is going to go so well. I knew that cow-orker decently, so I knew she wouldn’t be offended by that remark, but your average person might think you’re being flippant or think their remark was trite (Gee, how un-called for those reactions would be…). Some people simply won’t understand the mechanisms at work here. While the temptation can be great (and sometimes justified, IMO) to try to explain/justify it to everyone you meet, one only has so much time in the day:)
Final bit of advice, related to what Snoooopy said; before long the physicality of the relationship will want to be expressed with more than just a cyber hug. Every couple’s (and every person’s) reaction to that was different. I think it’s important here to make sure you communicate to your boy what you want from him and what you want for him. If there’s a disconnect between what he wants, what you want, etc. … that happens in some relationships. Talk about it, because doing something that doesn’t feel right to you isn’t good for either person.
Last final bit: talk a lot. Important stuff, trivial stuff, stuff that would seem trivial to us but important to you, stuff that would seem important to us but is trivial to you, etc. You don’t have body language, unless you’re using a webcam or something similar, that you have with F2F relationships, so if you’re angry the person isn’t necessarily going to know if your tone doesn’t change. Similarly, if you’re so horny you can barely type, and he’s sitting there eating a sloppy joe, he might not know how you feel unless you tell him.
I ended up moving late December of the year I met fizzy; it was something like 3 months after we met in person, and we haven’t been apart more’n a week since or before. In your case that doesn’t look like it’s going to be the case so much. What I’d actually recommend is spending more than a weekend (they tend to be honeymoons … you ignore the bad stuff because there’s not enough time to deal with it and get the good stuff going) together. My second visit to fizzy, my car broke down and we ended up spending two and a half weeks together. That was probably the most important phase of our relationship.
