A few months ago, I went to a job fair hosted by a company I’d really like to work for. Actually, I wasn’t ready to work for them at the time, because the job would require a lot of traveling, so I told the recruiter that during the interview. She told me I should give her a call when I’m ready to join the company, because she thought I would be well suited to the position.
I’ve been in touch with her since then, and every time I emailed her, she responded promptly with answers to all my questions. So last week, I emailed her and said “If you’re still interested in me, I’m ready.” We had an email conversation Tuesday night where she explained some of the next steps to me, and told me she looked forward to my joining the company.
Then she wrote “I’d like to talk to you about some things over the phone, is it okay if I call around 3PM tomorrow?” I responded that 3PM would be fine, and she wrote “Great, I’ll call you tomorrow.”
So Wednesday, 3PM came and went, and I didn’t hear from her. I didn’t hear from her Thursday either. So Thursday evening, around 7PM, I sent a short, polite email saying “I hope we get to talk soon, I’m available tonight and all day tomorrow.”
Well, Friday came and went, and I still didn’t hear from her. I waited until Monday morning about 9:30, then called and left a message on her voicemail, politely reminding her that she said she wanted to talk to me about some things, and if she still wanted to do that to give me a call, but if we don’t need to talk on the phone right now, to let me know, maybe by shooting me a quick email. I even acknowledged that she was probably really busy, so no rush or anything.
And once again, I didn’t hear from her. And I’m getting really frustrated. After all, she was the one who said she wanted to talk to me. I don’t know about anybody else, but when someone tells me “I will call you at 3PM tomorrow,” I treat it like an appointment. And when you blow off an appointment with somebody, you ought to at least send an email saying “Sorry I missed our appointment, I’ll get in touch with you to reschedule.”
Am I crazy, or is this really unprofessional behavior on her part? I’m now at the point where I’m obsessing over it, wondering if she’s purposely avoiding me. But she’d have no reason to do that, so I just don’t understand. Also, I don’t want to give up trying to get in touch with her, but how often is too often to call and/or email. I don’t want to stalk the woman, I just want to know if she’s going to offer me a job.