The obvious counter being, of course, that atheists usually teach that after death, the personality disappears, and it doesn’t matter if you were a good or bad person.
Wouldn’t it be better to teach an afterlife, as a motivation for good behavior and to comfort those whose loved ones have died?
Unless you value the truth above comfort, in which case it would be stupid to teach something you knew wasn’t true because of its effects on the feelings of others.
Apply the same logic to religion. If it were true that non-adherents to the First Church of the Apocalyse are doomed to hell, wouldn’t you agree that they should cling to the truth even if it hurt someone’s feelings?
If you knew someone was about to hire a baby-sitter who had convictions for child molestation, wouldn’t you warn that person? Even if it hurt their feelings?
It is only “psychological terror” to “threaten people with hell and damnation” if the hell and damnation isn’t real. If it is real, it is more on a level with fair warning, or giving someone a change to avoid an undesirable fate.
Or put it this way - most people who smoke don’t get lung cancer. Is it psychological terror to put warning labels on cigarette packs? No, because we know that the threat of lung cancer from smoking is real. Similarly, people who believe in exclusivist religions believe the threat of hellfire is real, too.
Besides which, if you don’t believe in the other tenets of an exclusivist religion, why would you be bothered by threats of hellfire? It would be the same as someone saying to me that flying saucers would burn down my house if I wear green on Thursdays. I don’t believe in flying saucers, so I am not particularly bothered by threats about them. So it is not psychological terror to tell me this, as I don’t believe it, based on my estimate that the likelihood of actual flying saucers is quite low.
If I am wrong about the flying saucers, and my house disappears after I choose the green shirt, this is still not psychological terror, but a valid warning that I was foolish to disregard.
Same with warnings from adherents of other, exclusivist religions. If they are wrong, I can disregard them without being frightened. If they are right, my tough luck.
FWIW, Christianity (my tradition of it, anyway) have a doctrine of the “virtuous pagan”, which covers non-Christians who, for valid reasons, are not members of the Church. And the doctrine is not that they automatically go straight to hell - do not pass Go, do not collect $200.
As for your other questions, which religion is the right one? Well, the one I practice, obviously.
Regards,
Shodan