When the BIG topic of conversation from her is her ex. (Ladies- an occasional mention is OK, but no more than one line on the 1st date, and not as a continual topic after).
When, for a dinner date- she shows up in sweats or something, unless she is clearly very athletic, and came “straight from the gym”.
When, for the 1st- Meeting- date- she suggests a very expensive restaurant. (Personally I like one of those places where we can meet for an early dinner- split some appetisers & a drink or 2. Then, if we can tell it’s a “NOGO” real fast, we are not stuck there for a couple of hours)
When she mentions she is still married- AND still lives with her “soon-to-be-ex”. Ok- it takes a LOOONG time for that divorce to become final. But if you are still living with him- it ain’t over.
When she has more than 20 cats. I love cats- have 3 of them. But when you get into double-digits- watchout! Note- if she has a small dog, and takes it along- forget it.
When she INSISTS on going 'dutch". An “offer” to pay half- YES! I love this woman. A “I’ll get the drinks (or the tip), as you got the dinner”- great. A “well, can I get the next one?”- fine. But if she INSISTs- that means she does not want to “owe” you anything, and you’ll “just be friends”.