For online hook-ups only: Beware the Arty Photograph!
It took only one collapsed date to get that one into my head.
The guy sends me this cool, arty, black-and-white photo of himself. I meet him in person and I think, “Wait a sec…his picture gave him a jawline as I recall…”
And the book thing. I met this guy at my gym, and of course he lives right upstairs from it so I go up to, um, take a look at his etchings. And afterwards I’m looking around and realize that there isn’t a single book in the apartment. Not even a phone book.
I mention something-or-other I’d read recently and he remarks, “Well, I don’t read that much - I mean, if it isn’t in the seatback in front of me I probably don’t know about it.”
But this doesn’t deter me. A couple of dates later I show up, and I’m waiting for him to get dressed for us to go out so I pull out the newspaper. I quickly realize that not only does he not read, but he’s arranged the lighting so there’s no way he could read. I mean, the only place you could read the newspaper was to spread it out over his dining room table.
It ended soon after.
BTW I love John Reed, I grew up on a recording of his of the great patter songs.