So I have a date tomorrow, and I'm nervous

Well, it’s kind of a date. And kind of a semi-blind date. I’m meeting this guy for the first time, possibly with a friend of his in tow, at a local gay bar. We totally hit it off on the phone last night and today. Problem is, I don’t know what he looks like. He’s given me a general description, but I’ve never seen a pic of him. However, he’s seen pics of me, and finds me attractive.

::sigh:: I know I can’t set myself up for disappointment, but it’s so hard. A co-worker of mine told me, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.” My work fag-hag thinks it’s great that I’m meeting someone IRL instead of having online crushes with guys I might never meet. Still, she echoed what I said about not setting myself up for disappointment.

Anyway, even though I’m now 30, I’m still nervous. I know I shouldn’t project, but if I don’t click with him physically, I fear it will be evident in subsequent emails. In the past, if things didn’t work out with a guy, I’d just stop emailing and/or calling. I’d like to think I’m more mature than that now.

I guess if it’s not going to happen, it’ll be evident to both of us.

Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest.

  • s.e.

Wheeeeeeee!!

First dates are fun!

Butterflies in the belly are fun!

I think it’s great - have a good time out there.

Happy birthday, too!!

Scott,

First Happy B-Day.

Second, look at it as a chance for fun and don’t read too much into it.

From a personal side I met an amazing woman at work (I’m straight BTW, but I doubt that matters when it comes to this kind of thing). She was exteremely smart but she wasn’t that pretty, she was some what over wieght. That is until I fell in love with her. After a couple of months I found myself lusting about this woman day in and day out. I didn’t fall in love with her body, I fell in love with the total package. Regretablly she was married and had kids. It’s been 5 years and I still think about her.

I guess what I am trying to say is that physical attraction is only one part of the equation.

Also, don’t set yourself up, just go and see what happens. If it doesn’t work then, at worst, you had a boring night. But even if it isn’t perfect you may find a great friend.

Slee