I dated a black guy once in my teen years. I wasn’t looking for someone a different race, but there he was. We were from relatively similar backgrounds, we (I thought) had a lot in common, plus he had the Older Guy mystique.
At the time I thought we got some flack from his family (my parents had no idea I was seeing him) that I assumed was due to the racial difference. In retrospect, it was them desperately trying to point out to me that the relationship between the 22-year-old martial arts instructor and his 16-year-old student was probably going to end terribly well. And oh boy were they right. It’s possible that there was also racial tension going on, but the other issues were much, much bigger. (“Why couldn’t he find a woman closer to his own age?” you may ask. Well, eventually he did. While we were still dating. And he dumped me in front of her. Not that I’m bitter.)
The man had the body of a god, though, I’ll say that.
I never had considered dating outside my race. I’m a white guy, attracted to white girls.
Well, I met a Korean lady in church and we hit it off and it’s like a whole paradigm shift happened. Not only was I very attracted to her (I married her) but my whole perception of attractiveness changed. Prior to meeting my wife I had absolutely no interest in Asian women. None. Now, all I really “check out” are Asian girls (east Asian to be specific).
If I were to be widowed and decided to enter the dating scene again I would be looking for another Asian woman. Sure, I still find white girls attractive and could see myself getting with one, but what really turns my head are the east Asians.
I would add that “fox” refers to a sexually desirable person. I.e. you might not date just anybody from any race, but if the person were a fox and also happened to be racially different…
IMO a fox is a fox but I acknowledge that some ethnic characteristics can heighten the exotic allure, e.g. Lucy Liu’s Asian eyes:
I shacked up with a Nicaraguan woman when I was in Guatemala. Had a thing with a woman who was Puerto Rican/Italian. I have a thing for brown-skinned girls.
I’m nominally a white guy and have dated more outside my “race” than not. Since I grew up in California where mixing is probably more common than many places in the US, I guess that’s not all that surprising. Cultural factors are more important than anything else, but depending on how long their families have been in the country, those differences could be quite small, not much more difficult than dealing with the differences between widely separated areas of the US. Seriously, a good friend’s wife, who’s from Ohio, probably had more cultural oddities for me even on casual acquaintance than most of the girls I’ve dated.
I had a serious long-term relationship with a Haitian woman. Almost married that one. The most discrimination either of us got was from mainland black women, actually. (There are some BIG cultural difference between islander and mainland blacks.) She was actually told that she was, “betraying her race by not dating a ‘brother.’” The only thing whites ever said about it was to satisfy curiosity by asking questions about cultural differences, and whether I thought our kids would have problems with getting teased. I never heard any black dudes say anything about it. Incidentally, her family loved me. We kept in contact for a few years after breaking up and she told me that her mom still asked how, “that nice white boy, Sleel,” was doing.
I’ve been living in Japan since 2000, so it would be really odd if I didn’t date Japanese women. I met the right one a couple of years later and eventually married her; our two year anniversary is in September. If our kids take after her (she actually looks a little bit like Lucy Liu) they’ll be darn cute
Well at least in porn movies, they seem to find a lot of black guys with massive units, like 10" or 12", whereas there aren’t nearly as many white guys that big. Maybe it’s because the white guys are the ones producing the movies and they get their random friends to be actors? I dunno.
I am married to a white guy. I was surprised that he or any white guy would be attracted to me but there you go. First experience going out with a white guy and we get married. There were very little complications except that I’m Canadian and he is American so we had the visa thing to go through.
I’ve dated a Jewish guy and a Pakistani guy and an Indian guy as well. The cultural differences or religious differences were the biggest to go through with those guys. But racially I guess they weren’t different
I was raised with Canadian/south Asian Islamic values and my husband was raised with Catholic/American Caucasian culture/values. We are very similar in that respect. The only thing I am seeing up the foxhole is that his uncle who is a born again Christian is sending out to him and his family and a whole lot of other people a lot of the email forwards related to anti-Islamic things or the anti - Obama emails. I’m not sure what I think about that. Our families all get a long and we actually like each other and they were all happy when we got married so I didn’t receive any resistance marrying a white guy or him a brown girl.
And only five percent of men got nine and up
But eighty-five percent say they can’t fit a cup, now what up?
Somebody gotta be lyin’, cause I am
Claimin’ bout twelve on the hit-me scale
But the truth is the six to eight range, you hang
Just like the average Joe Plain, fool
I’m a white guy who is mostly attracted to white girls. However, I have dated outside my race before and wouldn’t hesitate to again if I met the right person. That said, I’ve found that as I’ve gotten older(I’m 30 now), I have much more of a “type” and am drawn to girls that look that way almost exclusively.
I think Johnny Loose-Lips may need to take a long swim in some “special boots”, know what I’m sayin’?
I’d date any woman who I found attractive (in the overall meaning of the word, not simply looks) and who found me attractive. You get one life… why blow opportunities on trifling matters? Granted, if it’s not your cup of tea then by the same token do what you like, but to let society-at-large dictate your choice–well, I’m not quite willing to give up that much freedom to the masses.
I don’t know if anglos dating Hispanics is considered inter-racial dating nowadays, but it was when I was in high school (late 1960s). All three of my brothers and I dated Hispanics in high school and college, two of my brothers married Hispanic women. My personal experience is that they are fun-loving, witty, sensual and love to dance. Because anglo-Hispanic dating and marriage is so common around here, there weren’t any real problems with it, although there are definite cultural and familial differences. My experiences (two different girls at two different times) were great, but they weren’t relationshp-building experiences. I was probably a little too uptight for them, and too eager to “embrace” their culture for them to be comfortable with me.
Everyone I dated is outside my race in some way. I’m a mix of Sicilian, black, and native American (with a few other odds and ends). You try finding someone who meets those parameters. My wife is Filipina, definitely outside. We met playing volleyball. As for any other women I dated before meeting my wife, race was never a selection criteria. The only selection criteria were female, human, breathing and said “yes” to a date request.
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