Not sure if this belongs in GQ, so mods feel free to move if needed. Also, I searched the forums before posting this, but didn’t find any results that fit the bill.
Bit of a back story first:
Was having a discussion the other night over drinks with a few friends about our kids, raising them, etc., and one couple turned the conversation to how their child was just born intelligent (and perhaps I’m not wording this correctly. Maybe a more correct term instead of “intelligent” would be “advanced”).
Now, neither the father nor the mother of this child are what I’d call Mensa-material, but they both seem to have their heads on straight. The wife in particular thinks very highly of her level of intelligence, but I’d call her more…opinionated than intelligent. The majority of their knowledge comes from life experiences, and not higher-education.
Their child (who is 8) is what I’d call, extremely average. The mother likes to mention how she’s testing so high at public school that she’s considering moving her into a private school, but personally I don’t see it. She makes the type of spelling and usage mistakes that you’d expect from a kid her age, has problems with math, etc.
Now, I mention this only to frame the context of the conversation. I didn’t disagree with the claim of their daughter’s intelligence, but I told them that I wasn’t a firm believer that kids are just born smart. I said that by saying that, it takes away from the fact that they’ve developed an environment that nurtures their child’s intelligence, and it gives genetics the credit instead of their parenting.
So is a child’s intelligence genetic, or is it social conditioning? Maybe a bit of both? We hear of child prodigies that have graduated from college at 12, etc. but if their parents never nurtured that intelligence, would we have ever heard of them at all? Are their any stories of uber-intelligent children that were born from parents of average (or sub-average) intelligence?