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*Originally posted by SpoilerVirgin *
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Treatment? Okay, I’m sorry if I’m beginning to sound a little harsh. But I (and several people I know) had exactly the experience with a 12-step program that Ned describes. I don’t care if WebMD calls it a disease. I don’t care if the Pope calls it a disease. The nature of “disease” is a matter of human definition. If Web MD or the Pope can come up with good research and facts, then I’ll consider changing my mind. But until then, I haven’t seen any research that indicates a disease status for alcoholism. It’s been defined and re-defined over time and will continue to do so. WebMD is not the definitive expert on the subject.
That said, back to the issue of what constitues “treatment.” In my opinion, “treatment” would be something that treats a problem. Involvement in a 12-step program in no way constitutes treatment. There is no one at ANY meetings who is an authority on the subject at hand. In fact, you could easily be at a meeting in which every participant is going to go home and abuse themselves immediately after the meeting. They don’t know the answer any better than you do.
You sit in a circle with others who are “ill” to varying degrees, and one by one listen to them tell their stories. Much of what they say has little or nothing to do with the problem at hand. It certainly has nothing to do with YOUR problem. Sure, if you’re lucky, someone will share an experience that might shed some light on your problems…something you can take home and use to help yourself. But you have to sit and listen to a lot of clueless desperate people ramble about their personal lives before you ever get anything even remotely useful. Of course, you might not be lucky and ever get to that useful information anyway.
Meanwhile, discussion is not allowed. No one is EVER able to comment, question, suggest, or otherwise have a discourse on their difficulties abusing themselves. It’s just a series of uninterrupted monologues that can be about ANYTHING the speaker wants to discuss. His dog, her abusive spouse, the last time he got drunk at a party. Anything.
In fact, no TREATMENT is offered or even HINTED at in the 12-steps. Sure, we admitted we were powerless. We made a list of persons we’d harmed. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. Hell, we even convinced ourselves that if we weren’t into all this spiritual hocus pocus, we could (to use Ned’s example) pray to the soap dish to save ourselves.
But…here’s the fun part…which step is the one where we (gasp) quit drinking? (or quit taking drugs, or quit binging…)
Where’s the discussion on things to do to get your mind off of alcohol? Where’s the step where we change our thinking so that we crave healthy things? What about where we look into problems that might have caused the alcoholism, such as depression, and treat them? Where do we learn to care enough about ourselves that we find we’re worthy of taking care of?
Oh look. They’re missing completely.
Exactly what part of this plan involves actual TREATMENT of ANYTHING, disease or not? As far as I can see, it’s a support group of other abusers and not anything that even remotely resembles real treatment.