People are frequently accused of being judgmental on this board, particularly when they do something perceived as mean and insensitive.
So Doper A will say, ‘‘Oh, shame on your for being so mean!’’ and then Doper B will inevitably reply, ‘‘You’re being just as judgmental by judging the mean person!’’ and then Doper C will say, ‘‘Both Doper A and B are judging each other! Freakin’ hypocrites!’’ ad nauseum.
I’m not gonna lie; I judge people on this board all the damn time. I’m not proud of it, but there are certain attitudes that make me want to punch something. These are usually people who fall onto the spectrum of ‘‘mean as hell’’ – call me crazy, but I don’t like jerks. I don’t like snarky, smarmy assholes who don’t care about anything but being right. I don’t like bigots and people who make broad generalizations about the character of others based on whether they drink bottled water or leave their shoes on in the house or are having a bad day. I don’t like people who believe certain social contexts, like the Pit, allow them to be assholes without consequence.
I’m particularly judgmental toward people who have used their experiences of hardship and suffering as an excuse to generate bitterness and meanness. For better or worse, I feel more than superior to those people–I feel outraged at their gall and personally insulted.
To reiterate: I’m not proud of this. But rationally, it seems like judgment is a requirement to build some kind of coherent structure out of the chaos of life. It appears to be a universal part of humanity, and nobody seems immune to it.
But I would take issue with the suggestion that all judgments are inherently bad, and that judging someone for judging others makes you a hypocrite. I think it’s worse to judge someone for their shoes or their race or their psychological symptoms than it is to judge them for being mean. Being mean deliberately hurts people, and the fewer hurt people we have in the world, the better. Voicing disapproval of said behavior, when done collectively, may serve as a deterrent for some who would otherwise feel free to be judgmental twats. In other words, judging mean people for being mean may prevent others from suffering. Therefore, not morally comparable to the other kind of judging.
So what do you think? What do you judge people for? How do you morally justify it? Do you think all judgment is equally wrong?