I recently was told by a friend of mine that she didn’t want to hang out with me anymore because of my friendship with a mutual friend of ours (and her former roommate)… and no I am not in highschool… we are all adults…
Anyway…she is of the notion of judging her friends and others around her, and I am of the notion of accepting people for their goods and bads. I think that judging can lead to hating and I don’t think we need more hate in this world. That’s not saying that I would be friends with a really bad person, I tend to surround my self with “healthy” (as in thought processes) individuals, meaning, that I don’t tend to bond with manipulators, cheaters, and liers… if at all possible, however, sometimes the true colors don’t show until too late…I guess to some degree that is a judgment on my part… but I don’t condem others for being who they are and for believing what they do, even if I don’t agree with it my self.
My friend says to me the other day, “I know you don’t believe in ‘judging’ your friends but I do. The people you surround yourself with and people you work with influence who you are and how the world views you… and by accepting people for who and what they do or are ,when it goes against things you believe makes me not respect your decision to continue to be that persons friend….”
I am curious on what your (yep, all of you) views are on judging others…LET IT BEGIN: