The management at the straight friendly gay dance club I used to go to in the late 80’s were really careful at what went on in the club due to what they felt was unfair police harrassment. For the most part, people were self regulating and a good time was had by all, but the bouncers scrutinized ID’s like they were the FBI, guys showing a too much skin or getting too freaky were told to settle down, anyone looking like they were doing drugs were approached etc- they were like Senior Prom chaperones. Of course, all sorts of crazy things were going on out of sight, but outwardly they didn’t want the cops have anything so that they would shut down the lights and music.
Which I don’t really understand. My experience of sex with “straight” men is that it’s pretty crap, they’re a mess of inhibitions.
There’s a difference between fantasy and reality. In fantasy I would love to have a threesome with two women but the mechanics of the act along with the emotional baggage might not be all it’s cracked up to be.
Marc
The bouncing is not quite the same in a gay strip club. The bouncing occurs somewhat lower on the body then it does in the hetero club.
It’s probably for much the same reason that many straight guys like virgins or very inexperienced girls: not that the sex is going to be better, but from the achievement of the conquest.
This is a good way to get shut down IME here, you control your club, if you require contant police intervention you will get shut down. Having troblemakers cuffed and ready for PD is one thing, if PD has to intervene regularly you have big problems.
I’d think that the majority of fights that a bouncer at a gay club would get into would be involving straight guys coming in to make trouble, ie try to start fights and using epithets.
Evidently, you haven’t witness two over six-foot tall Samoan tranvestites get into a knockdown drag out fight before. :dubious: The skinny bouncer was remarkably fleet of foot and was able to break them apart sans his aloha shirt.
No, but it’s on my list of things I must see before I die.
I used to go there, and it was a very mixed club. There was a sign on the door reminding people it was a very gay-friendly place so chill out about it, but straight girls do drag their straight homophobic boyfriends in sometimes and after a few drinks, some of those straight guys just can’t handle getting flirted with by another guy.
I used to hang out at a gay bar in Sacramento that had a large lesbian crowd and they always had lesbian fights. I don’t know why, but lesbians can get very testosteroney.
The San Francisco treat?
We do now. 
Is it fair or not fair to say that there is an entirely different politic…vibe…what have you, in gay bars in terms of aggression, looking for a fight, etc?
ETA: In Snarky Kong, we have a winnah !
Cartooniverse
I’ve only been in a couple of straight bars so it’s hard for me to compare. But I’ve been in many many gay bars, many many times and would say the number of times that I thought there might be a fight were maybe a dozen or so. The actual fights…probably three. But they all occured outside the bar.
I’ve been to plenty of straight bars/clubs and can say that aggression and the potential for violence is much higher there than in gay clubs.
A biology teacher I had in high school referred to stress response (usually called fight–or–flight) as the three Fs: Fight, Flight, or…being very friendly. That could be why there aren’t many anecdotes about gay bar brawls. Fucking is usually more fun than fighting. Besides, it’s not like gay culture puts a high value on macho behavior, and clashing egos are usually what cause fights in straight crowds. I’ve got next to no first-hand experience with large groups of lesbians, but you’d expect there to be more problems than with a group of hetero women or gay men just because of the cultural push to act butch.
ETA: a bi friend who was a male stripper said that women get way more scandalous, pushy, and sometimes just plain mean than an equivalent crowd of men at a straight strip club. In his experience, the women were allowed a lot more leeway, and took advantage of it, whereas a man who acted up in a titty bar would be ejected almost immediately for the same behavior.