it’s not the length, its how well you keep your 'do.
Cannon, Hawn, Cher, etc all go to fabo hair dressers and get thousand dollar haircuts…hence, their hair looks great.
This is not saying that you have to go to a billion dollar salon also. I am just saying that regardless of what length you choose, keep it looking good. Especially once you get older. Your hair becomes more coarse and tends to lose its shine.
so to me, its not that short hair looks better, persay, it is just maintained more (more frequent hairdos, etc).
The problem with some women (and men) is that they don’t care for their hair because it’s long: the ends look scraggly. The grey is yellowed out, etc.
I think the most fabulous grey haired woman of all time is EmmyLou Harris.
thank you all for your opinons …I have another question you can ponder…what do you think about “some peoples” belief that you must have your SO’s permission to cut it…I saw this on one of the day time shows can’t remember which one but…the husbands were demanding they cut it…is it not your choice alone as I said to have long hair or not??..
I’m over 40. I don’t know what generation you’re from, but why in the world would it even occur to you that you need anyone’s “permission,” most especially your bf’s? My hair is long. I find it requires much less maintenance; I can put it in a pony tail, French twist, French braid (my s.o. likes the French braid), quickly catch it up in one of those big clips, etc. - a myriad of ways of dealing with long hair. I’ve tried short but it’s straight and has no body, so requires more maintenance (hot curlers, body sprays, etc.) Only long hair for me. Stop worrying about what other people say or think.
Oops - sorry, you said you’re past 40;I was being a bit sarcastic with the “generation” remark. I was simply amazed that any woman these days would think they need permission to do anything much less something as mundane as hair length.
Bad News Baboon, I wholeheartedly agree with your post. There is no right or wrong time for a woman to cut or not cut her hair. There are however, circumstances when women or men just look better with short hair. How many times have you seen someone who looks like they have maybe nine hairs on their head try to wear a style like the Farrah Fawcett flip? I’m forty three (gulp) and my hair is just touching my shoulders. I think I’ll grow it out to see what happens. People, do what suits you best. Just make sure you wash your hair regularly.
I know LadyG and we were having this discussion. BTW the guys on that show are pricks in my opinion…if they so hate long hair why’d they hook up with a woman with long hair to begin with? I think they want out of their relationship with this particular woman and are using the long hair as an excuse…if this doesn’t work they will attempt to change more on her until she leaves HIM and he can stay the “good” guy.
Anyways…I say any major change in appearance ought to be mutually agreed upon from EITHER side. I teased her asking her whether it would be ok for ME to dye my hair neon orange and expect her to just say it is MY hair and I can do whatever I like. She told me fine but do not expect her to be seen in public with me again while it was orange. But she also says if she were to decide to cut her hair it would be TOTALLY her decision and I would have to like it or lump it.
Actually, Mr. S and I used to have an agreement: He would not shave off his beard (he looks very handsome with it and TERRIBLE without it – we agree on that point) and I would not shave my head (I used to wear my hair VERY short – in the 1-inch range, and at about the edge of his tolerance limit). If one of us had broken the agreement, the other would have gotten out his/her razor. Kept us in line and looking good.
Mr. S’s hair is nice and wavy when he grows it out down his back. He’s done so twice, and I cried copiously both times he had it cut off. Fortunately, he’s thinking about growing it again.
whoooooooa A big diffrence between ORANGE hair and how long you grow it…Double standard??? I call it a choice… if you can be " LIKE AND EXCEPT" with someone who would look freaky with orange hair…and personaly …I believe if theres one person who is of the “GOOD OLD BOY” SYSTEM IT IS YOU MAGI !! PERMISSION MY BUTT!!
I did NOT say ANYTHING about permission. I was making a comparision between what I might do versus what YOU might do and our individual reactions to it. If you do not like the orange hair analogy then try if I were to shave my hair completely off versus you cutting your hair from it current extremely long length to say a Pageboy cut. My point is that I would no more shave my head without getting your input than I would expect you to come home some day with a short haircut and expect me to say ok it is your hairdo fine with me. I would like at least the opurtunity to convince you that I would MUCH rather you didn’t change your hair in any way than be presented with something that would take forever to grow back.
so what your saying is my hair does not belong to me??? what else does not belong to me?? If I bought a dress would I have to decuss that with you too?? Or maybe shoes?? if you did not like my taste …where would it all end?? Is this freedom in a relationship?
I’m 40 and until a couple of weeks ago, I had hair almost to my waist. It’s about chin length now and much easier to deal with than it was before, which was the only reason I had it cut.
But before the stylist made one snip she asked me if it was alright with my husband if I cut my hair. After informing her that even if there was a Mr. Ranger it was still my hair and I wouldn’t much care what he thought since I was the one that had to take care of the mess, she happily set to cutting. But only after I told her there wasn’t anyone to object. I don’t recall being asked that the last time I had a foot of hair cut off when I was 30. Maybe it’s an age thing.
INTERESTING… emagine that remark from your stylist…and we say we do not STILL live in the 50"s…no wonder our SO’s think they STILL have the right to controll us!..arghhhhhhhhh you sure we can vote?
Well, your SO may believe s/he has the right to control you but don’t assume that all of us are fool enough to be in that situation. I, for one, am much too intelligent to spend my precious time with a control freak.
Know what sweetie? I got all that crap too. And to my eternal shame, I caved in. Took me a few years, but eventually I got beaten down. Except in MY case, people started it at 30.
Don’t ever get “the 'do.” That awful haircut where you whack it short, then pem it? NO! I used to waitress at a bingo hall, and the worst part of the job was trying to find my customers because they all had the same damn haircut! Do what you want with your hair.
Um… I don’t think anyone’s SO should demand them to do anything, but if you were going to do something to so drastically alter your appearance, it might be nice to at least ask their opinion on it first. It just seems like the considerate thing to do, IMO. I mean, they do have to live with you.