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Unfortunately, she threw him out of the house and refuses to speak to him. :rolleyes:
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Oh man, I have the best idea. He should send in a video application for Deal or No Deal and explain how Howie Mandel ruined his marriage, and he needs to play on the show in order to help get his life back in order… the producers would be suckers for it! He’d totally get on.
[QUOTE=Rigamarole]
Huh?
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GFactor is right that this is the indisputable proof… there IS a 99 cent text messaging charge for those messages, if he’s telling the truth then they will appear on the bill with the corresponding dates… if he’s lying, they wont!
[QUOTE=Washoe]
Unfortunately, she threw him out of the house and refuses to speak to him. :rolleyes:
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She went online to check her hubby’s phone calls/text messages, accuses him of cheating, and throws him out of the house?
Either there is something you’re not sharing or you just don’t know about. Yikes this is scary.
[QUOTE=Washoe]
Unfortunately, she threw him out of the house and refuses to speak to him. :rolleyes:
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Did he at least get to pick the suitcase he took with him? Better yet, did it come with a model wearing a short black dress? 
Yeah, I was coming back here to say that getting into your partner’s online phone bill is a problem in and of itself.
Would it show on the bill how long each call was?
[QUOTE=Bootis]
GFactor is right that this is the indisputable proof… there IS a 99 cent text messaging charge for those messages, if he’s telling the truth then they will appear on the bill with the corresponding dates… if he’s lying, they wont!
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Again, not necessarily. I don’t think you’ll be billed for messages that arrive at 1am, the show is over and they’d have a hard time arguing they’re still entitled to that $0.99 They’re probably just ignored as “mistake” messages. If your phone delays sending them, this could happen.
Unless your friend Karen is actually crazy, Washoe, there is more to this story than you know. A normal woman would not kick her husband out for questionable text messages. She’s either crazy, insanely jealous, or there’s more to the story. Occam’s Razor says there’s more to the story.
[QUOTE=groman]
Timestamps online will be set when the message is actually sent by the phone. Sometimes my phone will not send messages for up to a few hours because of service problems or because I’m out of range. When I was with Cingular, I had up to 48 hour delays because of internal Cingular problems – the messages would just sit in the phone outbox with “Trying to send” status. Say this is the case, I don’t know if he would still be charged for them if they arrived that late, so they might not show up on the bill. My phone at the time gave no indication that this was happening, by the way. It looked like the message would send, but then I’d just my outbox and it’d be sitting there.
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Good point.
My old cell phone used to just freaking SIT AROUND waiting to send a text message… apparently the routine used for that was buggy on this phone.
I would have to REBOOT the phone to get the text messages to move, which SUCKS when you’re texting to find out whether or not this used book on a clearance rack is a collectible…
Anyway, one time I forgot to reboot it when I was sending the messages, and I went to the movies, dutifully turning off the phone.
When I powered the phone back up after the movie, it sent my text message… 4 days and 9 hours after I had keyed it in.
[QUOTE=bigbabysweets2000]
She went online to check her hubby’s phone calls/text messages, accuses him of cheating, and throws him out of the house?
Either there is something you’re not sharing or you just don’t know about. Yikes this is scary.
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[QUOTE=featherlou]
Unless your friend Karen is actually crazy, Washoe, there is more to this story than you know. A normal woman would not kick her husband out for questionable text messages. She’s either crazy, insanely jealous, or there’s more to the story. Occam’s Razor says there’s more to the story.
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Sadly, that’s the entire story. I omitted nothing. Karen has a histrionic and dissembling personality, and she projects her own dishonesty on everyone around her. She constantly interprets other peoples’ actions referentially, even if they don’t involve her in any way. Early in their marriage, her husband admitted during a marriage counseling session that he had told her a white lie. They had recently purchased a new truck, and he agreed not to smoke in it. During the session he confessed to copping a couple of smokes in the truck. She just wouldn’t drop it. She went on and on and on about it for months on end, essentially stating that it was prima facie evidence that everything he said should be viewed with skepticism. I think you get the picture. But he loves her, and is deeply attached to her handicapped daughter from a previous marriage. He just never gives up trying, no matter what kind of shit she throws at him. 
[QUOTE=Shoshana]
Yeah, I was coming back here to say that getting into your partner’s online phone bill is a problem in and of itself.
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Well, not necessarily. Granted - in this situation maybe, but in my case (for example) we have one of those family plans and her name is primary on the account (so she gets the bill) and while I don’t expect that she spends much time pouring over my numbers-called list, I bet a sudden increase in text messages would attract some attention. “Huh, weird, we got billed for 40 text messages… And they are always sent in the middle of the night… and just from your phone… and to this one number that’s no me… Howie Mandel?”
[QUOTE=Washoe]
Sadly, that’s the entire story. I omitted nothing. Karen has a histrionic and dissembling personality, and she projects her own dishonesty on everyone around her. She constantly interprets other peoples’ actions referentially, even if they don’t involve her in any way. Early in their marriage, her husband admitted during a marriage counseling session that he had told her a white lie. They had recently purchased a new truck, and he agreed not to smoke in it. During the session he confessed to copping a couple of smokes in the truck. She just wouldn’t drop it. She went on and on and on about it for months on end, essentially stating that it was prima facie evidence that everything he said should be viewed with skepticism. I think you get the picture. But he loves her, and is deeply attached to her handicapped daughter from a previous marriage. He just never gives up trying, no matter what kind of shit she throws at him.
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This is why you CAN’T always trust The Razor.
Sometimes the solution to the puzzle is:
[QUOTE=Washoe]
Sadly, that’s the entire story. I omitted nothing. Karen has a histrionic and dissembling personality, and she projects her own dishonesty on everyone around her. She constantly interprets other peoples’ actions referentially, even if they don’t involve her in any way. Early in their marriage, her husband admitted during a marriage counseling session that he had told her a white lie. They had recently purchased a new truck, and he agreed not to smoke in it. During the session he confessed to copping a couple of smokes in the truck. She just wouldn’t drop it. She went on and on and on about it for months on end, essentially stating that it was prima facie evidence that everything he said should be viewed with skepticism. I think you get the picture. But he loves her, and is deeply attached to her handicapped daughter from a previous marriage. He just never gives up trying, no matter what kind of shit she throws at him.
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Still scary. You’re a good friend for trying to find the facts, but if the woman is as crazy as you are describing then I am bailing out of trying to find a reason why the husband is not cheating. Not because he’s as honest as the day is long, but this relationship is nuts and this is an excuse to get out.
It turns out that you can’t have an affair by text message, it requires some physical contact.
Also, I happen to know that you can send a text message to someone at any time, and it remains just as private as when you are sending it at 1am.
Sounds like she wants out of the marriage, and a flimsy excuse is better than none at all in her eyes. Good luck to your friend.
Yeah, that’s probably not too far from the truth. I’ve been suspecting exactly the same thing now for months.
Moved to MPSIMS. Not even close to a General Question at this point.
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