My daughter’s 5th birthday party will be in one week and we gave invitations out 2.5 weeks ago. This is the first year that she’s been able to name specific kids from nursery school that she likes, so this will be her first birthday party with other kids. We only invited 5 kids and their siblings. I put down my phone number and email on the invitations, but I’ve only heard from 1 parent.
One of the kids we invited has a gluten allergy and I put a note for her parents in her invitation saying that I would be more than happy to make a gluten-free cake. And I really don’t mind, but if she’s not going to be there, I’d rather just pick up a pre-made cake at the store.
I really don’t want to be rude, but I’d really like to know how many kids are coming to the party. Is it ok to ask the parents this week when I run into them dropping off or picking up the kids if they’re going to be able to make it? Or is that really rude to ask them to their face to come up with an excuse if they don’t want to come.