We’re not confusing it with anything. All the dead Jews I’ve known had stone unveilings a year after they died.
Different chags for different minhags, I always say.
Ok, I have never said this. But I think it applies here.
The only religious rule is that you should do it within a year. The exact timing is the sort of thing that varies by minhag.
I’m not fucking confusing anything. Did you read my cite? Did you attend the unveilings of my relatives? Go goysplain somewhere else.
Cemeteries and graveyards are made to be visited by the living. Prior to the proliferation of public parks, you might have gone to a cemetery for a picnic or for a lovely stroll. I don’t visit cemeteries very often, but once in a while if I’m near one I’ll walk through them and read the headstones and other monuments. They’re generally open to the public, so it’s not in poor taste to visit.
My mom qualifies as a dead Jew. My sister handled all of the stuff involving her remains. I had to stop at a funeral home and sign some papers. I do not do funerals, but I’m pretty sure she was cremated. I do not know what became of the cremains.
In Vandergrift, Pennsylvania there is a cemetery high atop a hill that affords a perfect view of the Apollo, PA fireworks. The fireworks are at eye level, practically. On the fourth of July it is standing room only at the cemetery.
Your mom, though Jewish, didn’t have a Jewish burial so it’s not relevant. No shade, I’m not going to have a Jewish burial either.
Okay. I’ll admit to being totally ignorant as far as the meaning of anything you said. I hope your non-Jewish burial is a long time from now.
Well, I think some people are laying down.
It’s not a matter of confusion, any more than eating or not eating kitniyot is a matter of confusion.
I’ve been to the Kensico Cemetery in Valhalla NY. It’s loaded with celebrity graves. Nothing wrong at all with going to look at them, that’s why there are headstones instead of unmarked graves.
And other people are dying to get in.
hmmmm, no chicken wire a year ago.
I was just trying to maybe shed some light on things, not offend anyone. Calm down.
We didn’t need your “help”. The issue was completely resolved with the link I provided.
Whatever, you’re the one overreacting here.
Not really no. At best you spoke from a place of ignorance. You owe the Dope an apology for that.
Ok, please continue to lecture me about my own culture.
Honestly, I thought you were confused too. I had literally no idea that the American custom was different from the Israeli one.
Sometimes I wonder whether, if both communities survive, the differences between American and Israeli Jews in terms of culture and customs will, over the centuries, grow to be as great as the original Ashkenazic/Sephardic split. Probably not - the world is more networked and Jews are less self-isolated - but it would be interesting if they did.
Absolutely and I was a bit thrown off too but then I found the cite and we both learned something and that was the end of it until the later goysplaining. I thought that maybe you guys were doing it the Sephardic way and that was the reason for the difference but it could certainly be a different reason. I am curious now if American Orthodox do it your way.
I learned Israeli Hebrew in the 1970s. My dad pronounced things the old European way. Some of the T sounds at the end of word for us were pronounced with an S sound by elders.