I agree - a well-dressed guy is often far sexier to me than one who is buck-naked. Perhaps it’s the imagination factor or thinking about what it’d take to get him naked. I dunno. But something about my husband in his suit just makes me want to screw with his composure by throwing myself on top of him. Kind of like seeing him so pristine makes me want to make him dirty - or, even better, makes me want to make him want to attack me.
For what it’s worth, I do find many women arousing and they’re almost always mostly dressed. What is it about the curve of a breast or a round, tight hip that’s just so yummy?
because it would take action on your part to take said bits of clothing off. If she’s nekkid, you can’t imagine yourself doing any bodice ripping can you?
oh, yes. And a man in a dress shirt, with the sleeves partially (and unevenly) rolled up, with the tie slightly askew and the top button undone…now we’re cooking with gas.
In college I met one of my sister’s friends in a bar. My sister is 3 years older, and her friend was older than her by a year. I was 17, she was the unbelievably gorgeous blonde dating the big jock.
Long story severely condensed: We woke up at my place where she realized all she had to go back to her apartment in was the little black dress and heels she was wearing when he stood her up.
MBG to the rescue with my black Rolling Stones t-shirt and what are now called Daisy Dukes - but what were really only my favorite cut off jeans. We walked barefoot as far as we could without someone by her apartment noticing me, then I pulled off to go back to my place - she gave me a nice kiss and I watched her walk away.
To this day, that moment is probably the single sexiest walk I have ever watched. I spent half the morning watching her walk around my place naked, but those shorts and her hair swishing around the t-shirt?
Grrr…
PS: We saw each other secretly on and off the rest of the school year. My sister NEVER knew. And a week later, I went to Sis’s for dinner. My girl was wearing the shorts, gave me a little wink, and handed me a paper grocery bag with my t-shirt in it with the nicest “thank you for being the Knight in Armor, even if you DID get to frolic naked with me” note I’d ever seen.
Yep - it’s the clothes, no question.
Wow - didn’t mean to hijack.
Carry on.
George: “So she coughed.”
Jerry: “Coughing… naked… It’s a turn-off, man.”
George: “Everything goes with naked.”
Jerry: “When you cough, there are thousands of unseen muscles that suddenly spring into action. It’s like watching that fat guy catch a cannonball in his stomach in slow motion.”
George: “Oh, you spoiled, spoiled man. Do you now how much mental energy I expend just trying to picture women naked?”
Jerry: "But the thing you don’t realize is that there’s good naked and bad naked. Naked hair brushing, good; naked crouching, bad.’’
Jerry: “Well, I was walking around naked in front of Melissa the other day–”
Elaine: “Whoa! Walking around naked? Ahh… that is not a good look for a man.”
George: “Why not? It’s a good look for a woman.”
Elaine: “Well, the female body is a… work of art. The male body is utilitarian, it’s for gettin’ around, like a jeep.”
Jerry: “So you don’t think it’s attractive?”
Elaine: “It’s hideous. The hair, the… the lumpiness. It’s simian.”
George: “Well, some women like it.”
Elaine: “Hmm. Sickies.”
Was it a Seinfeld bit or someone else’s? “Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place.”
But ok, maybe it depends on the guy. You said “girlfriend,” which implies to me that you’ve been dating awhile. If you’ve already sealed the deal prior, it’s all good IMO.
As I posted, I think some lingerie is sexy, some meh. But she gets points for the effort, no doubt. BTW I haven’t lost sight of the fact that it might look sexy to me, but if she isn’t comfortable in it, that will probably affect her, uh, performance. OTOH if she wears something that makes her feel sexy but doesn’t necessarily do much for me, well, that’s ok. The trick to maxing the experience is to find common ground. Since it means that much to her, I’d be happy to provide my input in the selection process.
I definitely feel sexier when I get to show off the sexy bits and distract from the bits that make me feel less than sexy.
But for me sometimes it’s the ability to “arrange” a bit - like being naked but having a sheet across the middle that Dewey can lift and reveal the goodies. Or to be sitting or standing or lying in a certain way when I know he is going to enter the room.
OTOH, for me there is nothing so sexy as Dewey in his blue jeans, sneakers, and a button down oxford. I truly just want to do the deed right there when he walks in the room. Course he has the body to go with it - maybe that’s it. 'cuz, I admit - my ex in the same outfit and i wouldn’t give it a second thought.
But I’m equally happy to see Dewey nekkid - cuz chances are good we are gonna have sex soon!
