So long as you abide by the rules of the church you go to to meet people, are polite, don’t disrupt services, don’t try to start a debate about the relative validity of evolution vs. creationism, etc., I see nothing wrong with the practice. Most Christian churches welcome the chance to share the word of God with anyone who would care to attend, whatever the reason that they have come. Many actually encourage the members to bring non-beleivers to services.
But there is an easy, obvious way to answer your question. Go to the minister, priest, or whomever is in charge, and ask him/her. I’d bet that you’re going to find someplace that will be more than happy to have you because it will give the church an opportuinity to enlighten you while you cruise for chicks.
OK. Here is a really bizarre idea. If you decide you really think Christian women are qualitatively better for some reason, and you want to hang around the church because you want to meet more of them, then do this. Go to the church. Talk to the pastor, and tell him the simple honest truth. (That’s the bizarre part.) Ask him if you are welcome to attend services, or even Church social gatherings.
Then just let him decide if Christian Fellowship is a good influence to which to subject an admitted heathen. Be honest. That ought to give you an advantage dealing with all those unsuspecting Christian women.
Now, you should understand that vociferous agnosticism or atheism during church services is probably not going to help you get the chicks. Not that I thought you were going to do that, but I did want to mention it. One other warning; from time to time women have been known to lead unsuspecting young men into lives of piety and devotion. They don’t mean any harm by it.
(The two merged a few decades ago. They often refer to themselves as “UU”'s for short)
If it’s wrong, you’ve just invalidated a large part of the UU reason for existence, I think. The typical UU congregation (recognizing that “typical” is a hard word to apply to this context) makes no bones about being part social organization.
UU was introduced to me as a “church for people who don’t believe in God”. That isn’t that wide of the mark. What they essentially do is provide the trappings, organization and social functions of a traditional church, without pushing a specific dogma. UU ministers tend to vary from serving up a very generic form of Christianity to throwing every spiritual tradition they can get their hands on into kind of a strange, uncritical, new-age stew. I’ve seen UU ministers base sermons on the Bhagavid Gita one week and co-opt Rosh Hoshanah to blow shofars during the service the next.
Flakiness aside, if I had a kid, I might well start attending a UU church. It provides a lot of the positive aspects of a church without a lot of the dreadful mythology-pushing committed by others.
Many churches have “Singles Ministries”. The Presbyterians seem to push this particularly hard. In the Bay Area, there is quite a large singles organization run by the Presbyterian church in the Lafeyette-Orinda-Moraga area.
but to prevent you from makeing the same mistake in a diffrent setting. it would be helpfull to expain why not.
When two people come together to share a life. they do that… share a life. its helpfull to have more in common then a single visit to any location.
If you try to violate this rule, you’ll find yourself in a cage of never ending unhappyness. You wont be shareing anything, just tailing along for the ride.
I sugjest not doing anything that you normaly wouldnt want to do. So basicly you cant do anything more to fix this.
If your just now noticeing your batchelorhood then maybe you should just spend a few months looking around you with your new found vision. You are gona see alot more diffrent things then before.
Triskadecamus, may I use your post as part of a lesson in one of my classes? This is the most perfect example of paraphrasing someone else’s writing without changing the meaning that I have ever read.
A similar outlook often produces a similar response to a situation. If this seems to you to be a paraphrase of your writing, feel free to use it as you see fit. Tell your students to ignore the introduction of humor, since you seem not to notice it yourself. Hopefully they will find other mentors to deal with that aspect of writing.
(Note for writing lesson: Remind students that name-calling seldom does anything to strengthen your argument)
Hmmm. You raise a good point. Exactly how similar were our two posts?
Similarity #1–Talk to the person in charge.
Similarity #2–Maybe the church would welcome you.
Similarity #3–When in Rome . . .
Similarity #4–You may be converted in your quest for feminine companionship.
Similarity #5–Is it a church or a singles bar?
So far, it seems like paraphrasing. Now let’s look at the differences.
Difference #1–What kind of idea is it?
Oops. I mean, let’s look at the difference.
I admit it, this is a genuinely new idea, assuming you really meant that the idea was bizarre. But, wait a minute, there does seem to be an element of irony in your statement (it’s hard for me to tell, being humor-impaired). If this is irony, it would mean that you thought the idea wasn’t bizarre, but actually quite reasonable. Nah, that would make it another similarity.
:rolleyes:
Gee, I wish I’d thought of using sarcasm in my post.
It isn’t where you meet someone, its if you get along after that first meeting.
I know of couples who met in the supermarket,shops, disco, through friends etc… i also know that they met other people in other places and it never worked.