My fiancee and I are going on a group climbing trip to the Red River Gorge. There will be two straight couples and two lesbian couples. My sister and her girlfriend are suddenly getting a bunch of anecdotal warnings from friends, including American friends from North Carolina. “Make sure you aren’t ‘public’ in any way!”
We’re talking a deluge of personal tales of terror from all sorts of friends and acquaintances.
Eg/ The North Carolina friends were terrified when a driver in a pick-up saw them holding hands and pulled up alongside them, leaned on his horn and start screaming the most vile obscenities at them while gesturing towards the fully stocked gun rack behind him, and swerving towards them, threatening to run them off the road.
So now my sister and her girlfriend, my cousin and her girlfriend (oh, yeah, it’s totally our gene pool) are worried. While my sister’s girlfriend is Girly McFemme, my sister plays tons of sports so has that short faux-hawk that’s de rigueur in the lesbian sport-gal scene ( I had hips and boobies we’d be twins). Heck, my fiancee has a short, sporty do that has resulted in getting her called “Sir” a few times, despite her delicate, girly-girl features.
So will my “butchy” sister be a target in the rural woods of Kentucky? Or are all these cautionary tales embellished?
I wouldn’t call myself overly obvious…but my boyfriend is. (the term ‘flaming fag’ comes to mind when thinking about him) People that I know or have encountered from that area have pretty much been the ‘I won’t bother you if you don’t bother me’ types. That’s why I suggest that her and the GF not engage in PDA around the locals.
I have family from the hills of tennessee and have been in that area quite a bit. I really don’t think you’ll have any problems. Go and have fun! Just don’t break your necks.
Anecdotal, but my ex was up from Kentucky visiting my son and out of the blue told me that the cops stopped him and a guy and the ex thought he and the buddy were gay. It wouldn’t surprise me if there are areas that are unaccepting of gays.
I have no idea of the climate in KY but your ex may have been in a trolling area. We have a number of parks in my area where gay people like to hook up with little intent on learning each other’s first name.
I grew up 20 miles from the Gorge, and I live about an hour away now.
No doubt, there are plenty of homophobic idiots around, probably in a higher than average concentration, and if a gay couple told me that someone gave them shit it wouldn’t surprise me all that much.
That said, I don’t think there’s anything to worry about. Plenty of gay folks live around here, and tons more visit the area every year. (You’re not the first carload of lesbians to go rock climbing. ) You probably won’t even raise any eyebrows, and most of the people who do notice won’t care.
I’d be a little more worried if you were guys; the sort of idiots that would harass you usually don’t have nearly so much of a thing about lesbians. But even for them, I’d just take the sort of precautions you’d take if you were going anywhere.