Excuse me while I do a partial hijack of this thread. This is going to be long on opinion, and only tangentially related to the OP, with as little personal history as I can get away with, but I’d like to share this because it’s something I’ve been struggling with since I started the Ask the Black Guy thread. I was asked in that thread about my feeling on AA and I more or less punted having always been more or less ambivalent.
My one experience with AA was my Mom. She attended law school at night back in the 70’s under some type of AA program, while working days. For nearly six years she was someone I only saw sometimes at night and on weekends. Or at least that’s the way I remember it. She graduated in 80; I remember that well because of the party. She wouldn’t get work as an attorney until 85. It something she doesn’t speak of much, and I have no idea of how she interpreted the continued rejection. Currently she doesn’t practice.
Now in 2003, I own my own business, having never finished college. I never participated in AA to my knowledge, but in my previous dealings at my former company as a VP in Sales and other highly visible positions. I know, not suspect, know some thought I received my position through AA. It’s in the treatment, the looks, and it’s normally barely concealed. I hope some other Black Dopers will contribute and explain this better than I can.
I live in the flatlands of Oakland, in a good, very diversified neighborhood blocks from the kill zone that plagues the city. I could easily move to an area like the central valley and pay about the same on a mortgage as I pay for my apartment. It was a conscious decision on my part. Partly because my friends live here and partly I don’t won’t to forget where I came from (rhetorically speaking)) and more importantly I want my sons to see the differences that spring from the choices we make.
In many ways I hate AA; I wish it weren’t necessary. Yet, I can’t call for its removal either, I see too many people who could benefit, whether they avail themselves of the mechanism or not. I don’t want to criticize the Thomas’ and the Connerlys; but I do it anyway. Not because I think they’re wrong, in many ways they’re right, but I don’t want to see a generation of young people without some sort of safety net that promises at least some sort of a roadmap out of here.
That’s my piece, you may now return to your regularly scheduled debate.