Funny enough, my second wife is older than my first wife. My first wife was 6 years younger than me, my current wife is 2 years younger than me.
Then again, I almost married someone 20 years older than I was, back when I was in my early 20s.
Age has never been that important to me when it comes to relationships. I also very briefly dated a woman literally born on the same day that I was (though now that I think of it, I never found out what time of day she was born, so I’m not sure which of us was older).
No, what’s the definition that the writer of that article is using? If I’m trying to make sense of that article, I want to know what that writer means by the term. How you or I or anyone else here defines it is irrelevant for that purpose.
Some 20% of men who are newly remarried have a wife who is at least 10 years their junior, and another 18% married a woman who is 6-9 years younger. By comparison, just 5% of newlywed men in their first marriage have a spouse who is 10 years younger, and 10% married a woman who is 6-9 years younger
I would imagine part of that is simply a matter of opportunity. If you’re a 25 year old man who’s been in a relationship with a woman for long enough that you’re getting ready to tie the knot, her being even 6-9 years younger is pretty much out of the question, and let’s not even talk about >10 years younger. But if you’re 45, being involved with a 33 year old woman is no big deal - not to mention legal!
I think we’re too narrowed in on the sexual relations part.
Certainly there are women who feel they deserve to have what they consider to be a perfect man, and when they find men who are rich enough, handsome enough, manly enough, etc., and who don’t find her desirable, they can become angry and resentful.
Is there a movement analogous to incels for those women? I don’t know, but I have known women who would join it.
They likely wouldn’t realize that’s why they did it. They’d “fall out of love” with the older person, and “fall in love” with the younger. Convinced the whole time that it wasn’t about age, because they simply aren’t conscious of it.
These couples were people where, with one exception, the second (…or later…) spouses did not know each other when the previous marriage ended, like I said via divorce OR death.
In that one exception, the husband had not lived with his first wife for something like 7 years when he met the woman who would later be his second wife, and they didn’t marry until some time later. Their daughter was the flower girl at their wedding, if that tells you anything. Last I heard, they’re still together almost 30 years later.
Yeah, this. I’m incel but voluntarily so. I’m strongly attracted to women but having been through a divorce - as clean and easy as a divorce can be, which is still traumatic - I just don’t need to risk the pain of a relationship. Maybe that will change in time.
I still want sex, but I struggle with just casual sex, I don’t want a one night stand, I want a relationship.
To move the conversation back more to the question posed, there are asexual people, who don’t really desire sex. I guess there are women who want sex but are too shy/socially nervous/scared to suggest it. There is just not really a “female starved of sex because males don’t want them” opposite of the quoted Reddit.
Anyone can get laid. Even incels. If they would just deal with their idiocy
I’m not even sure that is what a male incel is. I don’t think that finding any woman willing to have sex with them, to use them to scratch their own sexual itch because men who they really want aren’t interested, would allay their complaint about society being unfair to them and diminish their misogyny.
And a woman finding someone willing to ejaculate in them is not the point either.
