Well that’d be a very silly thing to imply.
It’s probably because you’re a nice guy and girls only pay attention to assholes.
Is it possible that both mods and mundane posters project a tone onto what they are reading – a tone that was not intended at all? Pot. Kettle.
I’ve been gone for a while, and this was the first thread I clicked on. I don’t know Ambushed from Adam, but I do know that just prior to my taking a month or so off, Marley23 was filling up my PM box with rants about threads I was involved a year or so ago.
I don’t care to get into the details, and I can’t say, as Ambushed has, that publicly bias has been shown, because there is not enough data to form an opinion on that since the bizarre series of time-delayed messages, but I will add my name to a list of people that Marley23 has gotten into it privately with.
I don’t wish the guy any ill will (heck, I don’t even know if Marley23 is a guy or not), but if this is a pattern, is it appropriate either as a mod or a private poster who can’t be distinguished from a mod to be engaging in such behavior in PMs?
PS - the only way I got it to stop was to ask, and when that didn’t work, point out that I would post in ATMB if a second request was not immediately successful. It was, so I didn’t.
But now it seems maybe there is a pattern of this type of behavior, so I note what happened to me and encourage others to come forward, and encourage Marler23 to simply knock it off.
Marley turned me into a newt!
**ambushed **and not_alice, has the concept of just shrugging off minor slights ever occurred to you? It has amazing benefits for the shrugger and others. And if you feel an urge right now to protest that these are not minor issues, try to suppress that urge. You’re wrong. These are very minor issues.
Compare your troubles to FinnAgain. Marley turned him into a newt, a pretty nasty thing to do. But **Finn **just shrugged it off. And you know what happened? He got better.
Would it be possible to make the e-mail addresses of the administrators more prevalent and publicly known? Surely that is what people should be doing right? E-mailing the administration politely airing their concerns about the message board instead of starting attention whoring threads.
Can a poster be given a large-fonted message in ATMB before they start a new thread saying “If you have a problem with the message board have you tried e-mail the people in chage at…?”
Would something like that be possible?
That’s what private messages are for. Of course, people love to air their grievances in front of the board. Usually either to get support from other members, or because they’re attention whores.
It’s what e-mail is for also. Which is pretty much exactly my point. Is there any way for TPTB to explicitly show and encourage the B&Mers the more polite and direct method of talking to the administration?
That is a great idea, but the message should be displayed on every page load. That way even the people who don’t start threads know to fuck off with their stupid attention whoring. Cut them off at the knees before they dare disturb my peaceful perusal of ATMB.
I can’t tell if you’re serious or not, but if you are, yes the message should be displayed far more frequently than just for starting a new thread. The Chorus of B&Mers definitely will chime in each and every thread without ever likely starting their own thread. Always content to let someone else do it then jump in with their very worthless two cents.
EDIT:
Maybe instead of bumping this thread to complain about complaints you should have just emailed a mod your suggestion.
I was, perhaps vainly, attempting and hoping to turn this thread into something useful. Though you’re right, I doubt if anyone important is reading this thead anymore.
No U!
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No no, i get it. You were hoping that with little constant reminders to everyone, this would be the last attention whoring complaint thread you’d ever be forced to see. I’m not sure what types of criticism pass your test for being properly discussed in the open and don’t constitute “attention whoring”. Feel free to expand on that if you are actually interested in doing something useful with this thread.
I think people being able to freely air their complaints and get a discussion going is a good thing about this message board. Sure, sometimes they are stupid oblivious to reality type complaints but I can live with it.
Well your point doesn’t make any goddamned sense. Why post the moderators’ personal email addresses to send board-related complaints to instead of just PMing them so they can receive it when they’re already conveniently logged in?
Of course. I shrugged it off a year ago. Marley decided to raise the issue again on his own in response to my being involved in another aleit entirely unrelated hotly contested thread in his area.
Then he wouldn’t let it go. I indulged him a bit, but when his intent became childish and not as amusing had he stated his piece and let it go, I asked him to quit it. He slowed down not a whit. I asked him a second time, indicating I would post his second refusal to quit for all to see. That turned out to be sufficient to get him to stop cold.
But it seems he has done this to others too…I post only to encourage the exploration of how common this experience is to SDMB’ers.
I believe he’s suggesting you shrug off our discussion from January. This is the third or fourth thread you’ve used to complain about it, so you plainly have not shrugged it off. Fortunately for me, a couple of dozen people later used a Pit thread to make the same point I was trying to make.
Even in the PM where you asked me to stop writing you, you kept asking me questions. That’s why I responded. I figured if I didn’t answer, I would be in for complaints that I didn’t respond to questions from you. And I was right, because you later started a thread complaining I hadn’t answered a question you asked me.
All that being said, we don’t know if any of it is relevant to ambushed’s problem because he hasn’t posted in a few days. I’d rather address his problem if possible than rehash yours yet again, not_alice.