My husband is turning 50 on St. Patrick’s Day. I’d like to give him a really cool gift. Here’s what I have in mind- I’d like to book a trip to New Orleans, Thursday - Monday, probably in April. We’ve wanted to go to NO for a while, but haven’t been able to.
So, here's my question- I'd like to make this a surprise, and give him a guide book or something, and check the date with his boss to make sure he can get off. He works for a university, and has a lot of leave time saved up, so it's just a matter of whether there's anything going on then.
If your SO gave you a trip that you've always wanted to take as a surprise, would you be thrilled beyond belief, or would you be pissed because you didn't get to help pick the dates and the hotel?
What kind of job does he have at the university? If he’s an instructor/prof, you may want to do more then just check with his boss. Try to get a hold of his syliabi, lesson plans, etc, to make sure that he isn’t expecting a slew of papers/tests to correct while you’re taking your vacation. Obviously, this isn’t a factor if he’s in a non-teaching position.
If he’s an administrative type, when you talk to his boss make sure he doesn’t have any major projects/assignments due in the few days before or after your planned vacation.
If you can get those things taken care of, it sounds like an awesome birthday gift.
It depends on how channeled in you are to what he has going on. In theory, I know my husband would love something like that, but he could quite conceivably have a lot of open issues going on at work (that his bosses may not necessarily know about) that could make the surprise a bit of a headache in some ways.
My husband actually just sort-of did this with me but he asked me ahead of time about the dates. He didn’t say what we were doing, just asked if I could clear that time for a “surprise.”
I guess it boils down to this: If you can conceivably take care of everything (the dog will be fed, someone is taking in the mail, you know for a fact that he doesn’t have any university obligations, his favorite shirt is ready to be packed) then go for it. If not, then at least make him aware of the dates.
If he were the type to have a problem with your hotel choice, etc., then you would probably know that about him already. I can’t imagine him thinking it’s anything but unbelievably cool.
I’ve always thought it was weird to call something a “Solitaire” ring, for an engagement ring. I know why it’s called solitaire ~ because it’s a single diamond. But don’t you find that kinda’ “bad omen-ish”? Might as well call something a “widow’s wedding band”. Damn. Last thing I want to think about when I’m getting married is being alone (aka solitaire).
Couldn’t they call it the “unity diamond” or the “as one diamond”?
Is this just me or did anyone else ever think of this?
OMG!!! I’m sorry for the hijack! MAJOR hijack! I thought I did a NEW POST.
While I’m here, I think it’s a great gift. So sorry.
If a Mod sees this, could you please move it to a new thread if possible?
Sounds like a great gift – but make sure he’s into surprises. Mr. S doesn’t like surprise parties (for him) – he prefers to know that it’s coming so he can be in the mood for a party and so on. If I were to do something like this, I could easily see him saying, “Well, that’s really nice, dear, but I was looking forward to just hanging out at home this weekend.”
If his birthday is 3/15 and you’re planning the trip for April, that sounds like a good enough lead time if you tell him on his birthday.