If someone told you: “What’s interesting about you is that you’re like, the same person while you’re having sex and when you’re not,” what would your reaction be?
Would that be a compliment to you, an insult, something that just made you go “bwah?”
Why or why not?
My reaction would be “Cool. What were you expecting?” I’d assume they’d had a lot of very different experiences in that area, and I’d be nosy about what they were.
‘Bwah’
Unless the person is used to a ‘Batman jumping out of the closet.’ type scenario, I’m unclear as to who they think you would turn into when having sex.
My initial reaction is that it is an insult. Someone is reaching pretty hard to find a nice way of telling you something disappointing.
I sense that it’s meant to be a compliment, but I’m not sure I understand it. Since I like compliments, and I’m generally a fan of understanding, I’d ask them to 'splain.
Some people get really cranky when they aren’t getting laid on a regular basis. Bad enough for a friend to set her up with a blind date just so she would get laid and not be a cranky bitch.
Not that I would know anything about that…
So, being stable during times of no sex is probably a very good thing.
Without knowing the people involved, I’d guess the speaker means the other person is exceptionally intellectual and analytical and remains so in bed.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing, as the speaker probably likes the other person – at least enough to sleep with them. However, most people like to see some animal behavior during sex, and to think that they’re causing you to be overwhelmed by passion.
For what it may be worth: I have trouble not imagining the speaker as female.
Same here. I suppose it’s intended to convey that they find that the heat of passion lowers someone’s defenses, and that in the past they often have been disappointed when the other party has let slip (too many Jeckyll/Hyde experiences?), and this time with you what they saw was what they got.
Or as mentioned, maybe it’s not a compliment because they expected it to be an opening to What’s Within, and it turns out WYSIWYG.
Or something.
Wait, do they mean you are the same person when you are mid-coitus as you are when you are grocery shopping, or that you are the same when you have a regular partner as when you are having a dry spell?
If it’s the former…I guess that depends on what you are like normally. If you are generally a pretty sedate person, it’s not really a compliment. But if you are high-energy and a lot of fun, it could be a good thing.
If it’s the latter, I guess I’d see it as a compliment. Some people have trouble balancing relationships or the lack there of and the rest of their life. If it’s someone you are romantically interested in, however, it’s probably a slightly negative testing-the-waters thing. Nobody wants to be with someone who isn’t particularly passionate.
But, at the same time, usually when a neutral person brings up sex, it’s because they are contemplating you sexually. I would guess they were throwing out a somewhat ambiguous put-down to see how you react, and perhaps spur you to feel like you need to prove yourself. It could be like how pick-up artists use “negs” like “That dress kind of makes you look like a stewardess” or “Wow, you have really big hands” to throw women off guard and make them easier to manipulate.
Did you type this on a keyboard adapted for hands that big or did you dictate it to your stewardess slut buddies?
I’d take it as a pretty bizarre comment - you won’t get my “fancy a cup of tea” expression taking over during the above mentioned activities.
I guess it would be a compliment. I’m assuming they like how I am when I’m not screwing, so this comment would be a good thing. But really, I dunno, as it’s a pretty weird thing to say.
I’d say don’t give me this cryptic shit, if you have something to say then say it.
They would probably mean something about me being unromantic, which I’m fine with, regardless of how they meant it.
::: Pictures alice in a Batgirl costume:::
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I’m sorry what were we talking about?
FTR I agree with Bwah?
So what did they mean, “while” as actually stated and therefore in mid-action, or when the person is having sex regularly? Either way, I would assume public speaking isn’t their strong suit…
I wouldn’t find it a compliment.
Much better to hear about how surprising it is that you morph from a nice, regular guy into a lust-filled demon in the sack.
This is my exact interpretation.
Another vote for “Bwah?”
Given that my real name is Biggie Smalls I would have to say I would be a bit torn.
This is almost my exact logic. The lead-up makes it clear it’s not an insult. Though it does sound sorta like when your partner is just so enamored with you that everything is interesting. Kinda like when this girl thanked me for letting her drive me home.