I think the icky part is that you’ve known her all her life. It seems to me that if you are introduced to a baby and know the kid as a toddler and then a grade-schooler and then a tween, etc., by then that person should be firmly in the do-not-want-to-make-whoopee-with category.
If you think that she would find it creepy, then don’t do anything that communicates your feelings to her. Feelings themselves, even sexual feelings, are just little electrical signals meandering through your brain. They are not in themselves harmful.
You could start by flashing her and see how she reacts. Better yet, flash a whole group of people that she’s with so she doesn’t feel singled out. After that ice-breaker, see how it goes.
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He’s just a very patient man.
I think the wisest thing the OP should do is put his cousin in his mental “Yeah, it might have been nice but it will never happen” column.
I see absolutely no evidence that she has played a part in this at all.
In fact, I assume he’s asking because he’s considering telling her. If they were already dating, why would he ask?
I think it’s quite likely his cousin would be skeeved out, so he probably shouldn’t tell her. As for there being anything wrong–you can’t control your feelings. Though I would suggest spending less time with her.
This only makes my point stronger. He hasn’t even DONE anything yet, but people still need to “take a shower” or “feel creepy” after reading his post. I would like to see your response if the OP was “I saw a nice looking transgendered woman at a bar, and I really wanted to make out with her” and other posters responded with “yuck, I need to shower after reading that” or “I feel creepy reading about that”
There’s a work around for that. Kill her first.
Just for the record, she and I live on opposite sides of the state, and I don’t see her often. I saw her once or twice when she was a child, and then didn’t see her again for years and years. When I finally saw her again, she was suddenly “all grown up”. So to answer what somebody else said, no, I haven’t “known her all her life”. And, no, I’m never going to mention this to her. Ranger Jeff has it right.
You should totally bang her brains out. If neither of you tell anyone how can the cops find out to arrest you.
You feeling the need to clarify this is the creepiest part of this thread.
Thank you. That was my reaction, too.
Out of curiosity, how would you all feel if she were his second cousin and only ten years younger?
Or his third cousin and five years younger? Still creepy?
Come to New Jersey. Incest is legal!
I’m pretty sure that’s on our signs leading into the state.
My family tree includes quite a few cousins, including several first cousins, who married each other. I have no problems with it. Same goes for spring-fall relationships. What I find a bit skeevy is the combination of familial relationship, age difference, lack of indication of the woman being interested, and the OP having to ask about the morality of it.
Well, it explains Snooki.
Just in case you swing that way, sex with corpses is legal in Wisconsin.
Yet, if he had not clarified that someone surely would have asked, or worse yet, assumed she was not adult.
Approval of first-cousin relationships is not universal. If there was any doubt of that this thread has probably laid it to rest.
Of course we would have. This is the dope. We love to assume the worst.