EJsGirl, that must have been one big alarm! Sorry my sense of humor pops up at odd times.
Val, I am kinda curious as to what got edited so feel free to email me.
I have been there myself. My sons father raised his hand to me once and I told him that if he ever followed thru he would regrett it. He did, on both counts. First I put him thru a wall and then I tossed his stuff out the door.
My sister watched all of this. Watched him hide my keys making me late for work, taking the kids and making me come after him, tossing my shoes out in the bushes again making me late for work. Everytime I would walk in the door from work I would get the same questions about why was I late, where have you been, and the ever popular who ya’ fucking? I eventually lost my job because of the lateness and him calling or showing up. But I stayed with him. That is until he hit me.
Yes, so I know what she is going through.
I found out that late last nite she called my mom and is staying with him in DesMoines.
He now has her separated from any family. No car, no job, and really nobody close to run to for help. It’s not that far from us really, but you figure by the time she could get somewhere to call and by the time we actually get there a lot can happen.
When we offer advice we are told to stop, but yet she feels she can call us and tell us about it and we are to do nothing in the way of voicing our oppinions.
As for the girls, he isn’t their father. One dad stepped in once, but it was unfounded.
Kricket, Lynn just edited my post 'cause I screwed up the italic tags. No great wisdom was lost or anything. Not even any good cuss words.
Missy2U said:
I’m flattered. Please go right ahead.
Kricket said:
Yeah, I’m not surprised. I’ve seen it before, and my ex-wife had a similar tale from before we were together. I can’t really comment on it–try as I might (and I have), I can’t understand the mindset.
All I’ll say is don’t give up on your sis…but remember that in the end her life is her fault, not yours. Do what you can, but don’t blame yourself for what you can’t.
Oh, but stalkers are such fun! They really think they are doing you some kind of favor by following you everywhere you go, reading everything you post… they live for you!
It’s not stalking according to them. It’s admiration. It’s because they have a lot of respect for you! It’s not about you, it’s about them! Why, you wouldn’t even exist without their worship!
Yeah, stalkers are so fucking cool I could just shit my pants over it. Nothing like having a total whack job following you everywhere, obsessed with everything you say or do… a fart in the wind is the sweetest ambrosia to such a parasite. They really can’t get enough. They will go so far as to pump others for information… calling the cops doesn’t get you anywhere; it’s a “love affair” that went bad. Yeah, sure, call the authorities to deal with someone that obsessed. Good luck. They will give you all of two minutes attention and that’s about it.
And stalker boy? Oh, hey, he’ll still be around! Doing his thing. If he’s smart he’ll do it under radar but YOU know he’s still there… doing his thing… and there isn’t a damn thing you can do about it.
Offer your sister sanctuary. Make it clear she doesn’t have to talk about what this total waste of life put her through. If she’s anything like me she’s ashamed that she got sucked up into the liar’s game. If you shut her out she may never get away from him… because the stalkers are so very good at what they do. They lie, they manipulate… they are so full of crap that their blue eyes seem brown.
Don’t turn her away… that just drives her further into his arms because he is sitting there, telling her, that her family is against “their love”. He’s counting on you to HELP him. I’m telling you to please, PLEASE, don’t help him!
Tell your sister that no matter what you love her and want her to be happy. Ask her if she is really happy. I’ll bet you money she isn’t…