Thanks for your answers! From what I’m reading, the use of Hebrew is akin to the use of Arabic among Muslims; it may not be the first language, but it’s considered more “correct” than interpretations because of nuances that can’t be reflected in other tongues. Tradition is also very important; the Hebrew helps to maintain a distinct Jewish identity, even in a world where you’re otherwise assimilated.
In Protestant churches, attendees are usually given a pamphlet at the door that includes a step-by-step instruction guide to the liturgy that day; start with this hymn on page 35 of the blue hymnal, say the Kyrie on page 12, stand, recite the prayer on page 13. kneel, say the next prayer on page 14, sit back down, introduce yourself to those in the pews around you, listen to the lesson from the Old Testament, stand for the lesson from the New Testament, and so on. Catholic churches have regularly published missals that are far more detailed than the order of service guides distributed at mainstream Protestant churches. Unitarian-Universalist liturgies are far less rigid, but they’re still spelled out in the order of service guide.
When I’ve gone to synagogues (really, “temples” since they’re Reform, but I’m used to the term “synagogue” since Dad’s Conservative), you still get a pamphlet at the door, but it lists a calendar of future events and holidays, the sponsor of the oneg shabbat after the service, a list of people that are subjects of mourning, anniversaries, births, and a few other things unrelated to the service. There’s no listed order of service, though; it seems like you’re just supposed to know the liturgy without the help of a step-by-step guide. Occasionally the rabbi will tell you to turn to a certain page, but then I quickly lose track of where I’m supposed to be. Everybody’s flipping through to some distant page, even though there are no such instructions in the prayerbook or from the rabbi. The cantor may sing something on a certain prayerbook page in English or in Hebrew; what language is used “just depends”. WOAH! Everybody’s bowing now … I guess I better do that too. I seem to “pass,” though. At oneg shabbat, others usually ask if I belong to another synagogue. I look Ashkenazi, which probably helps concel the blinking “GOY!” sign I’m wearing.
I knew some of the basics; the “shabbos shalom” and “gut sabbat” greetings, and standing when the Ark is open. I’ll admit to feeling less confused than when I attended Conservative services with Dad as a kid. I’m going home this weekend; Dad’s going to take me to a Reform service and help me understand what’s going on. I asked him about the Hebrew; he said “It’s just how they do it. You might not know what you’re saying, but it’s instinctive; it just rolls off your lips. It would be nice if it were in English so we’d know what we’re talking about.”
Yes, I’ll keep going back. My spiritual path has pointed me in that direction through the years.