Messageboards can be really useful. Sometimes you post something stupid in anger, but then you come back the next day, reflect on what you wrote, apologize for being an asshole, and resolve to do better–and you end up thereby experiencing some genuine personal growth.
(Please don’t take “you” in that paragraph personally)
Yes, I agree. Mr. Dibble could take this advice to heart.
At least you have the integrity to live up to your user title.
Not the first person to note it.
I will note, you came quoting and looking for me. I simply stated an opinion you either don’t understand (perhaps I stated it poorly, but I don’t see how) or you actually do disagree with it, and think we should be consistently ruled by our emotions when we consider a controversial topic.
Heheheh, that was kind of neat.
Responding to a post you(specific you) made in an open thread is not “coming looking for you”(specific you), you (specific you) grade school throwback, this is not recess and we are not behind the bikesheds. Grow the fuck up. I understood your (specific your) wannabe-Vulcan idiocy just fine. I do disagree with it. And it’s there where you (specific you) lack understanding.
If you(specific you) bothered to read the rest of the thread, you’d (specific you) have seen that I referenced classic rhetoric and the trivium, so only an unschooled failure of a logic-school dropout would think that meant being “ruled by our emotions”.
Nah, I simply mean that people sometimes need to step back and generally not post on controversial subjects while they’re terribly upset. If you don’t like my advice, that’s fine. I really thought you misunderstood. Sorry.
Do you disagree that certain things SHOULD upset you?
I’m pretty sure I’ve never stated otherwise.
ETA: Seriously, I’ve deleted about half the posts I’ve composed for this place without posting them for a variety of reasons. Some portion of that was because yeah, I was upset and my post would just pollute the discussion.
Had you only made it “half plus one,” we wouldn’t be here.
You fucked up. Everyone does. A simple apology would be grand, instead of offloading responsibility for your fuckup onto others.
I have no idea what this means. Still don’t see what I need to apologize for.
For misunderstanding (no apology needed), getting super-defensive, turning that defensiveness into condescending dickitude, and when the misunderstanding is cleared up, blaming the whole thing on other people.
You could do better. At this point, I’m not seeing you have it in you. Maybe next time.
Maybe so. We’ll see.
Sure, but that’s hard to do when you’re upset.
Maybe once scabpicker’s emotions settle down, he’ll be more reasonable.
I’ll cop to that. I mainly encountered Shodan in non-controversial threads, so I clearly have missed the nastiness.
In real life, sometimes I apologize when people whose opinions I respect are angry with me, even if I don’t really want to apologize. I’ve never regretted doing this.
Sadly, this just happened to me.
I know “Joe” professionally. He was extremely helpful to me early in my career, and we used to hang out together at industry events. He was smart and funny and fun to hang out with. I had no idea he was a racist.
A few weeks ago he sighed on to an email expressing concern with the way in which our professional organization is approaching DEI (Diversity, equity, and inclusion). The wording of the email used some buzz words I associate with racists, but the actual content wasn’t terrible, and I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
This weekend, he cosigned an email that included some unambiguously racist content. Yeah, I was mistaken about Joe.
Sorry to hear that, but you’re better off knowing than not, IMO.
Yeah, I know. I’m still sad.