If your response to overhearing people making shitty comments about you on the street is to keep your indignation to yourself in an effort to avoid hurting their precious feelings, I suppose that is your prerogative. If those women had kept their irritation to themselves, however, I rather doubt the OP would have thought twice about this incident except perhaps to giggle about it on the drive home.
Wow. A father-son threesome would make you a fantastic Dad, then! Nothing says family togetherness like two manly, related rods sharing the same stretched hole! You should put up an ad.
Dude, is that really called for? :dubious:
Gee, you sure are sensitive.
FWIW, when I was 13 my parents split, and got shared custody. There were a few times after that that my Dad decided to break out the dirty joke or two around me. It was profoundly creepy, even though the exact same joke from a peer wouldn’t have been.
My advice? Find a different way to bond with your son.
Saying “Oh, sexy Mommas!” to your adolescent son is being creepy about it, and it’s not teaching him to be respectful of women either.
Ignoring him would have been the appropriate response.
First, my son was four when when his mother and I split. So the dynamic is still different. He doesn’t remember a time when his mother and I where together. Also, he’s seen me with past GFs. So he’s used to seeing me with other women besides his Mom.
Secondly, I don’t tell dirty jokes to my son.
An eye roll. Even a comment that doesn’t ask for a response, like “fuck off” and keep walking.
In the US, the problem was saying it.
In Spain it would have been saying it to a kid who (if he really is 12) looks like he should be on either side of the verge of moving between “mommas” and “oooh sexy”.
You didn’t just look, you were creepy about it and you taught your son to be disrespectful to women.
It would certainly have been the most ladylike response, I suppose. Also rather… ineffectual.
“Fuck off” would have been appropriate but “Way to be a role model” was an overreaction?
OK. :rolleyes:
How is “fuck off” more inappropriate than the comment that was made?
No, it’s the stopping and saying “excuse me?” that sounds drama queen-ish. “Nice role model” without breaking your stride, fine.
Now that’s overreacting.
That’s a pretty laughable distinction. Standing up for yourself doesn’t make you a “drama queen”. Whatever that even means.
This gross insult is completely unacceptible in IMHO. If you see further need to express yourself in this way, you need to take it to the BBQ Pit. This is an official warning.
Ellen Cherry
I don’t see how it makes someone a drama queen for putting a stop to objectifying comments. He’s lucky she didn’t slap him.. you never know how some women would have reacted.
I’m usually on the other side of these issues, but I just really don’t see the big deal here. It was a throw-away comment that they weren’t even meant to hear, so obviously he wasn’t being confrontational or anything, and so another comment made *in passing *is a proportionate response. To stop and talk to the person is an overreaction. If he had been confrontational or called them over or something, that would be entirely different.
You don’t know what drama queen means?