I’m with DianaG, in that I don’t consider many things that others consider harrassment to be even one. Shrugs… Sometimes I don’t even notice it until someone else points it out.
I grew up in Puerto Rico, lived in Gainesville (FL), Baton Rouge (LA), and Athens (GA). I’ve lived in NYC and Brazil a little while… at least enough that every day I was in the streets using public transport or walking (even more so than my other places). And I didn’t get a car until a year after living in Baton Rouge, and I still used public transport or walked on occasion.
In Puerto Rico (duh), most of the comments where from Puerto Ricans (construction workers, homeless guys, guys on cars). But it was usually what would be considered “mild” in your scale (nonharrassment to me)… When I was younger, and more scared of humanity in general, it scared me. The same way strangers in general scared me. Now that I’m older, I ignore.
I think catcallers in general have either been white college guys (see the towns I’ve lived in), or minority non-college men… as to how I know they’re not in college? They either say it, they look like it, they’re working in construction, they’re out at times a normal college student would be at school or wouldn’t be caught dead in the town.
Have never, EVER, in all the years I’ve walked alone, got into stupid places, walked where I shouldn’t at times I shouldn’t, travelled by myself, etc., gotten anything more than the “mild” category (and whistles)… And no, I’m not bothered by those, particularly if I’m dressed up. When I’m dressed down in t-shirts and jeans it is a bit weird, but again, blah.
The worst insulting comments have come from white preppy college students. Those were not catcalls, those were plain old “You’re ugly and look like a whale”- comments.
I think DianaG pointed out something important in the other thread. Statistically speaking, it is not the catcallers a woman should be worried about. Shrugs
I also notice that the more confident I act and look, the following happens:
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I get less catcalls or comments (both good or bad).
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I only get catcalls if I’m dressed up.
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I’m confident enough to keep walking and continue with my day.
And one last thing… The last time I remember getting a catcall was about a month ago, and that was the ONLY catcall I got of a week of walking by myself through the crowded streets of Salvador, Bahia, Brasil. And oh yea, thinking about when was the last time it happened is weird, because it happens so rarely, and if it does, I don’t always register or think about it.