Ladies - If your man paid for some professional cuddling would that be OK?

[Mrs.Cake]

If I don’t cuddle adequately for him, we have plenty of cats to pick up the slack. $60 is a bit steep for a grind.

[scootergirl]

@Blackberry

Paying someone to cuddle with you should be the opposite of psychologically beneficial because it should make you feel like a creepy pathetic weirdo.

This ^

[Wesley_Clark]

I feel like a creepy pathetic weirdo and it didn’t cost me any money. It can be done on the cheap.

[Senegoid]

@Blackberry

It wouldn’t even be okay if it was before we met, because he’d have to a needy fucking weird dude. It’s not that hard to find a free girl, come on.

Yakuza (Remember Yakuza?) seemed to have a hard time finding “free girls”.

[Grrr]

I thought we paid them to NOT have to snuggle.

[Blackberry]

@Senegoid

Yakuza (Remember Yakuza?) seemed to have a hard time finding “free girls”.

But see, free girl cuddling is easier to get than free girls sex. Obviously you’ll still need to hire a professional for sex.

[appleciders]

@olivesmarch4th

(Also, I have to believe it would be almost impossible for a male to snuggle with a woman and not get aroused, whether he means to or not.)

Nope. I have female friends with whom I snuggle (with my girlfriend’s knowledge and permission) with zero sexual arousal. I am not interested in them that way. There is no arousal. I also have female friends with whom I might snuggle (when I was single, of course) with a perfect understanding that nothing would happen but still enjoy the nice female snuggle in a way I wouldn’t with someone I’m not attracted to. A man certainly might enjoy a snuggle in a partly sexual way, but it is not entirely necessary.

[VinylTurnip]

@Blackberry

But see, free girl cuddling is easier to get than free girls sex. Obviously you’ll still need to hire a professional for sex.

I’d think a professional cuddler with a lot of clients would need some kind of training to combat the crushing boredom of lying in bed hour after hour not doing anything. I wonder if checking your iPhone while spooning violates the cuddle contract.

[grude]

@appleciders

Nope. I have female friends with whom I snuggle (with my girlfriend’s knowledge and permission) with zero sexual arousal. I am not interested in them that way. There is no arousal. I also have female friends with whom I might snuggle (when I was single, of course) with a perfect understanding that nothing would happen but still enjoy the nice female snuggle in a way I wouldn’t with someone I’m not attracted to. A man certainly might enjoy a snuggle in a partly sexual way, but it is not entirely necessary.

I don’t believe you, plain and simple.

[Rachellelogram]

I would only be pissed if he used it in lieu of snuggling with me. If he just wanted extra amounts of snuggling that I wasn’t able or willing to provide, though, I’d be okay with it. I liken it to a real situation I had with my first boyfriend ever, who would masturbate more often while the frequency of sex dwindled down to once (or less) a month. I wouldn’t have minded if he jacked off 5 times a day, as long as we were still having regular sex. It’s when there’s nothing left over for me that it becomes a problem.

[Johanna]

My thoughts in the order they occurred.

First:
I liked her dress. Where can I get one like that?

Second:
Here’s a reminder of how thankful I am to enjoy all the snuggling I could wish for at home for free.

Third:
The practice is expressly nonsexual; how many heterosexual women do you suppose would go for a nonsexual snuggle? Quite a few, I’d bet.

[HazelNutCoffee]

@Lasciel

I don’t agree that someone who would go to a “snuggle” is necessarily experiencing problems in their marriage. To me it does seem very equivalent to a massage. Would you accuse someone getting regular massages of having relationship troubles?

Giving a good massage is a skill. I don’t think there is a lot of skill involved in snuggling. And why would you want to snuggle with someone you have no emotional connection to?

Also, I really cannot imagine snuggling with a man that is not my boyfriend. Even if HE truly felt unaroused, it would make ME feel really weird. Plus, if I felt deprived of snuggling in my relationship, snuggling someone else wouldn’t really fix the problem anyway.

[PandaBear77]

@Johanna

Third:
The practice is expressly nonsexual; how many heterosexual women do you suppose would go for a nonsexual snuggle? Quite a few, I’d bet.

With another woman? Doubtful.

With a good looking, good smelling guy? Quite a few.
I would definitely have a problem with this if Mr. Panda wanted to do it.