I had a friend who got married in the first week of the month, and when I saw her in the third week she told me that they “weren’t together anymore because Roy really changed.”
Perhaps this is why I roll my eyes so much when anyone mentions the sanctity of marriage.
I trust that, even if my guy and I don’t stay together forever (which I doubt), we will still have enough care for each other and morals to treat each other fairly in negotiating a divorce.
I’m not sure I would be OFFENDED per se, but I certainly wouldn’t suggest it, even though I assume that in maybe 10 years or so I’ll be making more money than him.
It’s unromantic, but hey…so is divorce. I think I’d have to question getting married at all though. Much simpler than going into two contracts. I can’t make a call until the situation becomes real for me.
Are any of you dopers parties to a prenup? I don’t think I know anyone who is. Of course, we’re all poor people in my circle of friends and family.
party to a prenup. Sheesh.
I’m getting married next September.
Although I’m broke (as is irishfella), I’m not doing this with the outlook that if it gets rough, I can walk away. Why would you even bother to try and save a relationship if you knew you could walk away that easily?
So yes, I’d be offended if asked to sign a pre-nup, although with Irish and British divorce law, there is no 50/50 split and maintenance is decided on an individual basis, so they’re not common.
I’d be suspicious of a woman who wouldn’t sign a pre-nup. To me, it would sound too much like “I plan to take your money someday!”
And, yes, I AM the most cynical person I know… thanks for asking! 
This is how I feel too.
In the first blush of youth/first marriage, or if you’ve got a long, long, long history together, I think a prenup is kind of insulting. But later in life, I think it’s more understandable.
If I were to get married in the near future, (not that I anticipate that), I don’t think I’d be that offended by a prenup if the groom-to-be was wealthy. Even though I don’t have much income now, I do have a few “assets” that might some day really pay off. So I’d be thinking, “Well, that’s okay, because if anything happens he won’t get his paws on my stuff either.”
I’d sign. I wouldn’t be contemplating marriage if I thought it was doomed to fail, so why would I worry about signing a piece of paper that I would never expect to see put to use anyway? If my marriage was to fail, I’m of the view that each person should take away what they brought in to it plus half of everything acquired in between, and I think that’s usually what a pre-nup agrees on anyway, so that wouldn’t worry me. Obviously it’s more tricky if there are children involved.
If my future husband was the sort of person who couldn’t propose a pre-nup without offending me, then he wouldn’t be the sort of person I’d want to marry. I see no reason why this topic couldn’t be broached in an inoffensive manner. If I thought my intended had the sort of financial situation that should be covered by a prenup, I’d probably offer to sign one without waiting to be asked.
My thoughts exactly. The more offended the woman got, the more I would assume she expected a divorce.