:: reads thread ::
:: tries to be cool and analytical but can’t ::
:: breaks into sweat ::
I have to admit I wasn’t aware of the female “checkin’ out the crotch” thing.
I stole a glance at my wife’s cleavage the other day…there is just something about a peek…hard to explain.
To women who wear skimpy tops and get angry when people glance: fuck off.
I’m an inveterate crotch-watcher. Sorry guys, it’s not on purpose, I can’t help it.
As for my boobs, they’re both real and spectacular, so I’m just impressed when you can tear your eyes away. 
Seriously though, I agree with the general consensus, which is that a glance is fine, a few glances is still fine, never looking above my collarbones is NOT fine. I’m not the least bit put out when someone checks out my rack. It’s quite a lovely rack. And I don’t for a second believe that “finding me sexually attractive” and “respecting me as a person” are mutually exclusive states.
Word.
I think the problem comes in when people forget about the actual person inside the body they are regarding, and think only of their own goals and desires (whether they be sex-seeking desires, as in this case, or money-seeking or favour-wanting or whatever). In my group, we called this ‘having an agenda’, and it was an astonishingly-difficult habit to break. It’s non-attachment to the goal: in a way, you have to abandon your goal to find it.
If you can’t abandon your immediate desires to actually pay attention to the state, words, actions, and desires of the person you are looking at, there is a problem.
My only regret is that I learned this non-attachment twenty years too late. If I’d know this when I was in university or college, things would have been a lot different.
Wouldn’t bother me. Same rules as the men…glances are good, stares are bad.
As a grad student, I’m also a TA. I agree completely.