Since I’m on a roll in terms of posts involving children this week, I give you this, which I have been wondering about for a while. It isn’t material to my life right now, and the answer may vary depending on jurisdiction.
Parents with custody generally have the right to exercise reasonable discipline against their children for “offenses” defined by the parent, and generally, the child is not entitled to appeal chores (sweep the basement), dress codes (no daughter of mine is wearing that), curfews, or punishments (like being Grounded) to the police, Child Protective Services, or the courts unless the parent’s behavior in imposing such constitutes legally recognized child abuse or neglect.
I’m ignoring methods of punishment (e.g. spanking, grounding, no TV, no visiting friends, punitive curfew) and the severity of punishment (e.g. 5 spanks, 10 spanks, grounding for 1 week, grounding for 1 month, 9pm curfew, 6pm curfew) for the moment and concentrating on whether or not there are legally recognized subject matter restrictions on what types of rules parents can impose on their children. That is, another way to phrase this question is whether or not children have rights that are inalienable that a parent cannot “legislate” away in the same sense that people in the US have Constitutional rights that Congress cannot legislate away.
Hypothetical situation:
<ring ring ring>
Operator: “Hello, Child Welfare Services, how can I help you.”
Kid: “I’m grounded.”
Operator: “Oh dear, what happened?”
Kid: “Well, my dad is converting to the Baptist Church and he told me that I must too. I said that I was happy being Mormon, and he responded by telling me that I am grounded until I convert.”
Operator: “Oh my, it is illegal in this State to punish a child for refusing to engage in conduct that violates the child’s sincerely held religious beliefs unless such conduct is necessary for the child’s welfare. We’re sending CPS and Police to your home and if your father won’t back down, we’ll place you in a foster home where you can practice your religion freely, and refer your father to the District Attorney for possible prosecution for Child Abuse.”
Kid: “Ok. How soon will they be here?”
Is this (or anything related to subject matter of family rules) remotely possible?