Thanks for the insight, Ulfrieda. I’m not sure about “disturbing” - but we think we cook good tasting, good quality food, we enjoy leftovers, and we really detest waste. We usually they to hit a balance between making sure we have ENOUGH for everyone, while not cooking EXCESS.
The idea of plating is something we have never done. Trying to figure what it would really be like.
I think the woman and her husband waste a lot of food. Food goes bad in their crowded fridge/cabinets. They grossly overbuy/cook, and often ask us if we want to take home leftovers. I think she actually eats a pretty lousy diet - consumes to many calories in gin/wine - and puts food on her plate to sorta give the impression that she eats a more balanced diet.
The guy is my SIL. He is thin. His wife - my daughter - often says she is concerned about her weight (not grossly obese, but a little soft.). And the oldest of their 2 kids was/is a somewhat picky eater. So at their request, we don’t do such things as push food or demand that they clear their plates. Yesterday just struck us as weird, as he took a 2d helping of meat, which he left on his plate. (Just this morning my wife and I ate what he left on his plate as part of our leftovers! YUM!)