Sometimes she calls me her “domestic partner” because she doesn’t want people to mistake me for Allison, her business partner.
Friends who have had a union ceremony say “wife.”
We used to say “lover,” but that’s kind of dated now, isn’t it? And – like “girlfriend,” which some young women use, lacks the permanence of “partner” or “wife.”
Those of you who are in a long-term, committed relationship: what do you say?
I use “partner” and most people get it. The only exception was my SO’s 70-something stepuncle from Florida who wanted to know what business we were in. I was so tempted to say “liquor” but I minded my manners.
I have a legally recognised union in the country where I live yep. Even if I didn’t I would probably use the same term at this point in our relationship, just be leaving out the “common-law” bit so to speak.
Lucky you, Iteki. I think I’m a wife, since I work part-time, Bebe works a 65-hour week, I do all the house stuff, shopping, etc. But is she my wife, too?
Single now, but I would generally introduce her as my girlfriend. I’m 21, though, and I think that I’ll grow to find the word doesn’t say what I want it to.
And then there was the time that I introduced her to my grandparents- who knew perfectly well exactly who she was- by stammering, “This is my, um, Jennifer.”
I dunno how I feel about that, to be honest… it was not the best of breakups. It never is, I know, but this was quite the memorable trainwreck and I’d like to think that my lasting contribution to the lesbian community didn’t center around it.
I prefer “partner.” However, it does get sticky when business partners are concerned – or when the person you’re talking to is completely oblivious and asks if you have a boyfriend/husband. Otherwise, I prefer “significant other” but it’s a bit bulky and doesn’t easily roll off the tongue.
I think I like these two most because when I lived in San Francisco, I often heard these terms used despite whether it was a heterosexual or homosexual couple.
Back when i was a lesbian, i used partner for relationships over a certain level of commitment, girlfriend for those less than that. Nowdays (given all the gender confusion) I just introduce my significant other/other half/whatever by name (“This is Sailor”) and let people draw their own conclusions by our behaviour.