You know the vibe I’m talking about. When you first meet someone and you just know there is a mutual attraction going on there? I’m not talking about a cerebral/intellectual attraction; I’m talking about the “Hot monkey sex” variety.
There has to be something of sustenance we can pin this down to. I don’t recall ever being wrong when I’ve had these vibes. (YMMV, maybe I have been wrong, I just don’t remember. )
Attributing this to something called a “vibe” sounds too hippy/new agey-ish for me to wrap my logical thinking brain around. But what the heck is it? What cues are we picking up on when we experience such a thing?
Any ideas? My own crack-pot theory is that we subconsciously notice dilation of the eyes which gives us the green light. But I don’t know, I’m just throwing stuff out there.
I just think it’s a feedback loop of ever amplified body language and flirtation. It might start with a flash of the eyes, then you respond a tiny bit more forward in kind and so on. It all happens really fast, and before you know it, that’s when your endorphins are coursing like mad, and you just wanna do some shaggin’.
From what I’ve read, there’s a variety of body language symbols far beyond dilation of the pupils, with many being as gross and obvious (if you know what to look for) as turning towards or away from a person, looking directly at or away from them, touching, etc.
I think cmyk has it right. But I’m the wrong person to ask – I’m legendarily oblivious to body language, especially (I’m told) from females. I think Pepper Mill realized this and literally grabbed me.
From what I’ve read, recent studies suggest it is an olfactory thing. The body releases a pharamone (sp) which can click with certain individuals and not with others. Who knew mans’ least used sense, the sense of smell, could be that involved with such a basic instinct (pun sort of intended).
After reading the same study, my wife said she was amazed that we ever got together since I have broken my nose seven (or eight) times.
