Having read more details … you’re there 2 more months. Suck it up then run like hell.
Don’t burn bridges. Your employer is going to side with the crazy guy because the crazy guy brings them in a lot of cash. You’ve worked too hard to ruin your career before it even starts – stuff like this can follow you around for years.
It sucks but you’ve gotta look at the long-term. No, he shouldn’t be able to get away with it. Neither should he be able to see to it that you never get hired anywhere, either – and if you say something, chances are that’s exactly what he’s gonna do and you’ll have given him the ammo to do it. Even if he’s not the one who is called for a reference – see the preceding paragraph.
As a point of curiosity, what words would you use to describe me?
In case you need to take this to the pit to tell me what you think of me, I’m still curious to know and would not get into a debate with you.
I tend to be more expressive with people I’m comfortable with. Attaining a sufficient comfort level can take some time or an unusually good personality match.
Document, but otherwise ignore the bully and continue on with your career.
Once you are away from that firm, you might wish to report him to le Barreau du Québec so a to help protect future articling students, but expect retaliation by him ranging from a libel action and ongoing animosity against you.
It comes down to finding a balance between how important it is to you to bring the bully’s behaviour to light verses getting on with your career with minimal embuggerance.
I would use determined and opionated. You’ve come off as that from what I’ve read (in other things you posted). Not in a bad way. I usually enjoy your posts. You just seem the opposite of meek and mild. You just seem very strong, but it might be the position you find yourself in at the moment.
It’s true, when something is cerebral, I am determined and opinionated although I often spend time reflecting on the opinions I hold and I try to keep in mind Bertrand Russell’s quote that “the whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves yet wiser people are full of doubts”. The Myers-Briggs test might be methodological bunk but the description of INTJ fits me to a T*.
But when the possibility of physical confrontation or retribution appears, I am very risk averse. Bullies seem to smell me.
As you note, the position I’m in matters of lot. I’m keenly aware that I have little to no leverage here.
Michael, I think you should double down and turn the tables on this prick. For instance, if the guy Makes inappropriate comments you should follow up on how he would like to be taken on with a strap on, or when he akes his shirt off you should give him a nipple twist or a nipple suck, or when he moons someone you could grind him like you learned to love the bomb.
Don’t do anything like reporting it to someone else in the firm. If this was indeed witnessed by others, ask them in 1-on-1 conversations if they saw what you saw, if he’s ever done it before and why the behavior is tolerated.
Suck up the 2 months and get out of there. If he brings in money and clients, like you say, there is going to be little motivation to change him. The burden of proving it is yours, and the others that saw it may not see it in their best interests to go along with you.
Absolutely document it, but keep the file to yourself. If you ever need to discuss it, you will have the dates/times of his behavior.
With such a small office, I imagine most that work there will circle the wagons. They aren’t going to want you to make him or the firm look bad.
Good luck. That situation sucks, and I feel for you. I hope you can skate out of there when your time is up.
There has never been, there isn’t and there never will be…what? Ambiguity or consent? Need to make that clear in an email that you are sending to lawyers…
Shiiiiiiit, send me a PM with the pertinent data and I’ll call the senior partner and explain what the fucknugget is doing. Doubt it would do any good but it’d come from outside the company and nobody could pin it on you!
suck it up as a life learning experience. My best management teachers have been people that tought me management boners to avoid. This guy is great for teaching you a lot of things, but it sure doesn’t seem like a pleasant experience. Again, suck it up, document anything you can, and maybe in the future you can have your day in court with this goat felcher.
