We picked up Lil’Kwyj this evening from his Bio-Dad’s place and Trin mentioned to Bio-Dad that we wanted to move to Calgary.
When we thought about telling him, we figured two things could happen:
1.) He would be hesitant, but agree.
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2.) that he would go ballistic. (to which, he would eventually calm down and reconsider.)
He did neither.
He remained calm and told Trin that he didn’t like it at all. Trin explained to him that we only were thinking about it because it would be a better living for all of us, but Bio-Dad said that as soon as I was out there and had a job, it would be then, when we were almost established, that he would take us to court. (I have no idea why he would chose this time to do it. I guess to be threatening and to be a prick.)
Trin explained that he would see Lil’Kwyj more often this way and that we would not expect child support from him again and his only expence would be to pay for the flight back, but it was pointless. He said that even though his visitations are sporadic, (About 6 times a year for 1.5 days at a time.) he still had rights. (Well, I guess he does, but he only has ‘access’, so his rights are limited.) He went on saying that he didn’t sign anything saying that we could take him out of provinces and the court order said nothing about it. (I will have to check up on that last fact.)
Trin and I have a feeling that he will start coming by every two weeks like clock work now. To put on a good show. Seeing as that he is going to flaunt the custody court order, and if he does start coming every two weeks like he as ordered to, then we will also stick strictly to the agreement. We will no longer meet him ‘half way’ so he can have Lil’Kwyj . He’ll have to drive here to us. (Just like the court order said. Like any father who was really interested in seeing his son would do.)
I am also seriously considering calling the government offices, having him reassessed and getting him back on the government controlled child support plan…to be a prick. (We took him off because he wasn’t paying and the government was hounding him. We figured we would do him this favour as we were thinking of moving at this time and that this would be seen as a good gesture on our part.) He still pays, but the government has no controll over it. He is also paying less that he should.)
Lil’Kwyj Bio-dad is pretty useless. He calls to say he is coming to get him and doesn’t show up. Usually he just doesn’t call or show up at all. He has only seen him about 6 times this year.
The research I have done thus far tells me that moving out of province can be stopped if there is a strong bond between the child and the access parent. Lil’Kwyj knows his dad, but rarely sees him or talks about him, so I don’t believe there is a ‘strong bond’
Sigh But none the less, looks like our big move is off.