badmana Congratulations! I hope. and thank you.
caphis
quote "So, where are you off to this evening, Sensualips?
This evening I saw my son leave with three of his friends to go to the beach. He will be seeing her tomorrow during the day for a Halloween Party. I do have tro admit that although I am greatly relieved he decided to wait. I am a little disappointed too. It’s funny how I take their milestones as if they were my own. I was also preparing for him to discuss the experience with me afterward.
Most of my night was spent dressing my 14 year old as a devil for the school dance. I have not had a date since my ex left me. I am slowly getting back to the stage where I am forgetting he even existed. Maybe it is time? Eh, when it happens, it happens, I am in no rush.
(Of course if there are any eligible bachelors on the board I am always available for a chat)
**whiterabbit **
quote “Heck, I survived until 25, though lack of opportunity. I was not scarred for life by it, either.”
I knew a girl who was offering herself to any guy who wanted it just before the prom. It was a little unerving for me to hang out with her.
matt_mcl
quote “Oh, and one more thing. Remember to mention to him the importance of getting the young lady off too, and the techniques he might use to do that (if my understanding of straight sex is accurate, it’s unlikely he’ll be doing that just by penetrating her, at least the first time before he’s had a chance to practise.)”
Matt, do you know a lot about women? I think a woman’s body is too immature to orgasm at this age.Ffrom what I remember, (like Whiterabbit) I was too darned scared and wanted it over as soon as possible. I am not going to tell my son that. However, I did tell him what foreplay was. (Do you think I scared him?)
SolGrundy
quote “What if he’s not big enough for her?”
I must have missed this. I have to laugh. I was worried about this when he first started going out with girls. I didn’t know it when I married him, but his father wasn’t exactly “average”. So I thought my son might have some anxiety and I discussed it with him. I told him how I loved his father and that it didn’t matter to me. He finally figured out what I was talking about. He asked me, “What is average?”. I told him “5 to 6 inches” He started laughing and blurted out “Really??? Mom, I don’t think you need to worry about me! I am beyond average.” (He got that from my side of the family:) )
(“Vital fluids”…ROFLMAO)
Originally Posted by Sensualips
He is also the only boy in my family other than my older brother who doesn’t have all his faculties. (maybe that’s why)
**Ghanima **
quote “I’m having trouble figuring out what this means. Can you explain further? It sounds like you mean he’s retarded, but the rest of your post doesn’t imply that at all. Am I being dense?”
No you aren’t being dense, I worded that badly.I just meant that my brother (the only other male available) is not a good example for my son. The “Maybe thats why” refers to the fact that he (my brother) has been brought up with only women.
I hope that makes sense?
**Kalhoun **
quote"We need to stop treating sex as some dark and naughty thing and try looking at it as a natural aspect of our lives."
I was hoping there were others out there who feel as I do. I was so inhibited by my catholic upbringing it gave me a warped sense of sexuality and I feel my life would have been better lived had I been brought up to feel this wasn’t a “precious commodity” only given to your husband. This includes how I felt after being raped. If I had not valued myself by my sexuality, I would have recovered with a much better self esteem. (TMI but I felt it was a valuable point.)
**Soapbox Monkey **
quote “Well it’s not like it was my choice to not have sex in high school.
sigh 20 years and counting.”
I truly believe that if you had tried harder you might have. I know so many boys are painfully shy without needing to be. If someone had been there for you to tell you to take many risks, your chances will increase every time you talk to a girl. You might have and maybe even now might still have that chance you were loooking for. You just have to reach out for it. To find the courage or stop caring so much about the rejection. Ask girls you don’t know for a date and just try. Then rejection doesn’t matter so much and you learn something new (getting better at it all the time).
Of course if you are a girl…the same rules DO apply.