I’m currently on Xanax XR and Zoloft for anxiety and depression respectively. They both work pretty well. However I notice 2 issues. One, I have sort of a decreased sex drive. My girlfriend and I used to do it at least a few times a week, but now it’s more like once a week. Secondly, I have a hard time reaching orgasm, although I can stay hard just fine. The last two times we had sex, I could not come.
I had this issue when I first started taking the Zoloft, and I was told that it was normal. Within a few weeks it went away and my sex life was going pretty well. But about a week and a half ago I went from 75 milligrams to 100 milligrams, and I feel that same problem starting to creep back up.
What can I do about this? Try to wait it out?
For what it’s worth, I have an easier time reaching orgasm if I am, well, jacking off, than if I’m having sex. This has always been true in general for me, but more so since I started taking the medications.
I know that a lot of people take these pills so maybe someone here can give me some advice, if you don’t mind speaking candidly. Thanks in advance for the help.
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I’m currently on Xanax XR and Zoloft for anxiety and depression respectively. They both work pretty well. However I notice 2 issues. One, I have sort of a decreased sex drive. My girlfriend and I used to do it at least a few times a week, but now it’s more like once a week. Secondly, I have a hard time reaching orgasm, although I can stay hard just fine. The last two times we had sex, I could not come.
I had this issue when I first started taking the Zoloft, and I was told that it was normal. Within a few weeks it went away and my sex life was going pretty well. But about a week and a half ago I went from 75 milligrams to 100 milligrams, and I feel that same problem starting to creep back up.
What can I do about this? Try to wait it out?
For what it’s worth, I have an easier time reaching orgasm if I am, well, jacking off, than if I’m having sex. This has always been true in general for me, but more so since I started taking the medications.
I know that a lot of people take these pills so maybe someone here can give me some advice, if you don’t mind speaking candidly. Thanks in advance for the help.
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My vote, from experience is to wait it out. Your experience sounds identical to my own experiences on Zoloft. It was just a matter of letting my body adjust. Of course, there was a significant period of time where I would not be able to finish just like you said above.
I take 40mg of Celexa and occassionally have one of the same problems you do (unable to orgasm during intercourse). Two things I found that work are to try different positions, as with some it was still possible to finish. A much more effective method for me, however, was to skip a day or two of the medication. I do that and I’m like the Energizer bunny… but yeah, talk to your doctor before you take my second piece of advice.
Oh, and I’d recommend against drinking more than a few servings also.
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I have a hard time reaching orgasm, although I can stay hard just fine. The last two times we had sex, I could not come.
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Talk to your doctor about either switching to or augmenting the zoloft with wellbutrin (bupropion). It’s a different type of antidepressant, and has little to no sexual side effects (anecdotally, it made a couple people I know even MORE horny than usual). It has actually been used to counter some side effects of SSRIs, and may allow for a lower dose of the zoloft.
I had a problem achieving an orgasm in 2001(ish). I had no problem getting or keeping an erection. But the orgasm was difficult for me to achieve.
My doc actually recommended Viagra. I explained that I no problem getting erect, but he seemed to think that perhaps I wasn’t getting “all the way erect.”
I don’t think it helped me.
We achieved more from her going on the pill and dispensing with rubbers.
I also think that getting into better physical shape helped me. (I’m not implying that you are overweight, nor as overweight as I was at the time.)
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For what it’s worth, I have an easier time reaching orgasm if I am, well, jacking off, than if I’m having sex.
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Maybe you’re just not attracted to your girlfriend anymore?
