Male Sexual Rite of Passage

In My Humble Opinion
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I guess this situation could be considered both hypothetical and actual for discussion purposes:

Guys, if a very good male friend of yours approached you and mentioned masturbating together, would you take him up on the offer? Why or why not?

What if it were a group of friends- I guess something like a “compare yours to mine” session?

Would you (or have you been) be the initiator?

Judging from conversations with several of my friends, I think some of them have participated in such activities, either alone or as part of a group. However, others timidly change the subject or become defensive at the mention of masturbation.

My opinion is that most guys have jerked off or at least compared themselves to others; whether or not they will admit it, is the difference.

I’m secure in my manhood. I admit I’ve been through this “rite of passage,” if it can even be called that. I’ve compared, had contests, etc.

Is this typical male bonding?

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If I had done so, I’d be perfectly happy to admit it.

But - nope. Not a single such episode.

On what do you base your opinion that most guys HAVE done it?

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I’d have no interest in choking the chicken amongst other men. I like yanking my yard well enough, but I can’t see how the experience would be improved with other men present. Bopping the bishop is a private experience for me. Which is not to say I haven’t massaged the mushroom in the presence of a female lover.

And, yes, I did do some sexual experimentation with members of my own gender when I was pretty young. I don’t think that’s terribly uncommon.

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“Mushroom” is probably not a euphemism you want to cultivate … unless you just support truth in advertising. :wink:

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Nope, nope and nope.

As for why…uh, well, if a freind asked me to do that it’d be more than a slight breach of boundaries. I don’t suspect many of my female friends would take too kindly to the request to masturbate together. I’m sure they’d be fine watching, but unlikely to perform for me. A see no reason to assume differently between male friends assuming they aren’t interested in gay sex.

As a rule, I don’t think anyone of any gender combo would netertain this unless they were interested in more with the other party.

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Can’t say that I’ve ever had the offer or the desire. But 98% of my friends are female, anyway. Now THAT would make for an interesting masturbation session.

However, I’m thinking my wife wouldn’t be on board with that. :smiley:

And, come to think of it, none of my female friends have offered, either. Hmm…

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Bah…posted less than a minute ahead of me. Although I’m not sure “beaten to it” would be the phrase to use in this particular thread.

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Never even though of it. But since you mentioned it: It doesn’t appeal to me, I think it would be too much of a distraction to finish.

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Ditto. And I went to band camp… :stuck_out_tongue:

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No. Never. Why do you ask? Whoever told you that was lying I tell you. Lying!! It wasn’t me, DAMN YOU. Anyway, I was young and impressionable and if anything DID happne it’s only because I needed the money. It’s none of your damned business anyway.

:: Turns red, then walks away sobbing ::

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That type of thing was downright common in my rural hiigh school. Guys would masturbate at the urinals, in the locker rooms before games, etc. I did it a few times. It wasn’t homoerotic at all at least for me. We would do things like race to see who could get off first. We also had highly publicised longest and shortest dick contests (seperate) that had a surprising number of students of both sexes and faculty present. There were some circle jerks to although it was strictly roll your own. My high school wasn’t very typical in most ways so YMMV.

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My first reaction contained so many expletives that I can’t really print it in this forum!* Suffice to say it would probably change our relationship as I would no longer be able to look at my friend the same again, knowing that he looked at me as a sort of quasi-sexual partner. Which wouldn’t be bad if he were gay, that’d be okay (I’d still say no), but if he claimed to be straight it would seem sort of creepy.

Then again, there would be some situations in which I’d be tempted to take him up on the offer, for instance if he encouraged me to masturbate with him whilst watching porn or a stripper. I still wouldn’t do it, but it would leave me thinking he was just a bit uncultured.

*“What the ****ing ****”?

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Does anyone else have an image of this contest taking place on a cool fall evening on the football field with bleachers full, and cheerleaders screaming, and ol’ Mr. Higgins the history teacher passing out hot cider on the sidelines, all the while seven or eight guys stand at midfield fluffing themselves while Mr. Margarosi the gym teacher stands by with his tape measure? No?

But how does a dick measuring contest get highly publicized at a high school, with faculty being present and all? I imagine there was a “prettiest pussy” contest too? With all the foreign exchange students serving as judges, and the Chinese judge never giving anything higher than a 2.8?
Sorry. The unusualness and absurdity of this intrigues me.

Happy

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I went to one of the poorest, crappiest high schools in rural Louisiana. During the middle of my senior year, the whole school burned down (arson). They basically just threw us in the gym with partitions for the rest of the year. Anarchy reigned and we all started having these bizarre contests. The penis things were among them. Pussy contests only occurred once as a subset of a general pubic hair contest (that I lost). I am not making any of this up. The school was half black and half white. Popular belief would have us believe that a black guy is a shoe-in. Little did they know that I very quiet, white kid with a speech impediment held a secret weapon. Some of the football players were sure that he could beat the black guy. The only way that we could get him to agree was through a high-pressure, high-profile contest in the football field house that everyone knew about for days. Side-bets were placed. The football coach was designated the official scorer. Both contestants had all-star potential but the slow kid carried the day. It was his 15 minutes.

After that, people just wanted in on the action. Those with small dicks wanted to win too. We literally had a screaming match between three guys about whose dick was the smallest followed by a trip to the bathrooms. It got so out of control that one guy even screwed a dead deer (female thanks) to win a bet.

I have learned to not talk about my growing up years here in Boston. People tend to take it the wrong way.

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I can’t imagine why… :dubious:

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No, I just got images of them standing around with ribbons pinned to their members. :eek:

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Never did the circle-jerk. Never a soggy biscuit. Whose is bigger? Didn’t know, didn’t want to. Had a friend suggested any of the above, I’d have run the other way. Don’t get it, never will, want nothing to do with it.

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No. Was never invited to a group do, and wouldn’t have participated, had I been. Masturbation is a private matter which is why it only involves me and my privates. No observers, no advisors, no reporters, no cheering section.

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Whoa, shagnasty , that’s weird…really, really weird. I can understand biggest/shortest dick contests in lockerrooms, and maybe, maybe even the football coach being there to adjudicate (though any teacher/student thing tends to set off warning bells). But a big public event? With other faculty present? Women? Co-ed pubic hair contests?? Necrophilia/bestiality??? Wow. I’m at a loss for words.

As to the original question, no, nothing remotely like that has happened to me, nor have I ever been inclined to initiate. Whenever I heard that such things were common, I always figured that either a) it was a blatant lie, or b) I was just from a particularly repressed/conservative/(normal?) area. Even the few locker room situations I was in growing up were, as I remember, mostly shy and embarassed kids averting their eyes and changing as quickly as possible. And while I’m sure there were some sidelong glances to compare and contrast, there were definitely never any “hey guys! let’s all compare penis size!” sessions.

Now that I think about it, I do remember that I once spent the night at a friend’s house, we were watching TV in the middle of the night, and he kept flipping back and forth to an erotica channel. Somehow he was in a sleeping bag somewhere behind me in the room where I couldn’t see him, and I very studiously avoided turning my head so that I wouldn’t see what, if anything, he was doing. In retrospect, maybe that was an unspoken invitation to something mutual, but if so, I had absolutely no desire to join in, and at the time just thought it was incredibly awkward.

On the other hand, maybe it is more common than I think. I work in a video store right now, and we have a big adult room in the back. It’s pretty common for pairs of guys (more common, even, than male/female couples) to go back there and rent (straight) porn together. (An even more distubing pair went back there once, but I’ll save that for another day – and no, it wasn’t a minor.) Presuming they’re watching the porn together, wouldn’t that lead to other things?? On the other hand, I’ve been to strip clubs with friends before, and that didn’t lead to anything. So who knows.

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Well, when I was a teenager nobody but NOBODY would dare admit that they masterbated. So situations like the OP describes would never come to surface in my case.

I have to say though, even if it did, I think I’d be a little more than slightly creeped out by it. This only compounded by the fact that I used to have a bigoted view towards gays as a lad.

This thread makes me wonder though: When did it suddenly become “cool” to admit you actually masterbate? (I think this is a good thing BTW.) Can we blame Howard Stern for this?