we have 6 cats 4 older females 2 kittens one male and one female the kittens are huge the males more outgoing playful loves tummy rubs but he defines the term "scaredy/fraidy cat …and has to get used to you…
if your new he hides from you then about the 5th or 6th time he sees you hell come out and investigate …and when hes on his back spread eagle and is wriggling for a tummy rub then hes your friend for life (one day ill have to film him on trash truck street sweeper day its funny as heck to see him run and hide ) although when petted and hes being lovable and purring one tendency I’m trying to break him of is he grabs with teeth and claws and “nibbles”
the female is more reserved but she was the runt and eats like shes never getting fed again and eats his food …although he outweighs her by 2 pounds she just pushes him out of the way and pigs and he just ambles off
Between the kittens hes the instigator in most of the mischief they get in to
Not counting kitten litters, over my lifetime, I’ve had eleven cats, four males, seven females.
I believe all these cats had affection for me, but some were more loving than others. I call the loving, pet-me-pet-me! ones “cuddlebugs”. Those cats are so affectionate, it gets annoying at times. They bug you to cuddle them.
Of the four male cats, two were cuddlebugs.
Of the seven female cats, five were cuddlebugs.
On the other hand, the male cats seemed to prefer my Mom’s company to mine. The female cuddlebugs preferred me.
We’ve had seven cats over the years, counting Mercedes AKA “The Cat from Hell” who ran away after less than two years.
Four of the others were female, two were male. Our vet told us that males tend to be more affectionate. Our experience bears this out.
I will say though that the two females we have now were pretty much “come pet me when I want you to otherwise leave me the fuck alone” types until they got older. Now, at age 17, they are pretty affectionate.
Female Russian Blue. Sweet, cuddly, affectionate, skittish with strangers.
Male Singapura. Sweet, affectionate, a bit standoffish, didn’t like to be held but liked to be near his humans, skittish with strangers
Male Singapura. Cuddly, affectionate, social.
and 5. Pair of Russian Blue sisters. Both divas, both sweet, both very wary of strangers but loving with their people. One took a lot longer to warm up than the other one did.
Female Rescue Tabby. She loves everybody. Cuddly, super-affectionate, loves strangers. If we let her out she’d probably walk up to the first person she saw and get in their car.
Female Rescue Tabby. Sweet, loving, but very skittish. She’s 7 and has only recently started to warm up to us. Very wary of strangers.
Male Rescue Tabby (brother of #7). He is my baby. Big, sweet, goofy, affectionate, loves to cuddle. Not fond of strangers, but loves his humans.
So for us, there’s no real correlation between the boys and the girls regarding friendliness/cuddliness.
We’ve had so many cats over the years! I think it just varies depending on personality mostly, but perhaps there are some general tendencies that each cat gender may display a little more often. We’ve had many affectionate girl cats. One of our female indoor cats follows my mom around all the time and wants to play often. A female cat we used to have would chase other cat interlopers out of the yard, and that had been behavior that I had always associated with male cats before. One of our indoor/outdoor male cats stays close to home while the female indoor/outdoor cat is a little more wander prone.
I have had 3 female cats. Two of them were absolutely wonderful. One of them was … haughty. But, for at least the last 5 of her 19 years, she had some health problems. We would just put her hissing and general nastiness to her not feeling well. But, the truth, of course, was that she’d always been like that.
I have had many male cats - probably about 9 or 10 - and have never had one that was unpleasant to family members. We have one now who is terrified of non-family members. The poor thing hides under the covers of a bed until the stranger leaves!