This may be helpful for un-married people as well.
My wife and I were talking last night, reflecting on our past 8 years…No children (yet), fair amount of travel and exploring, good jobs etc…etc…Yet, when asked what we don’t have as opposed to what we had as younger married folk, my wife said. “…well we don’t make-out anymore like we used to…”
And upon reflection it’s true: The hot steamy bunny lov’in make-out sessions are gone…we understand we were courting in our younger year…and the hormones were racing etc…etc…
As for now, I choose not to get into too much detail, but it’s not the animal lust it once was:
Why is this in your opinion?
How about you?
Constantly. At least, we try constantly. We have a nine year old daughter who can now stay up later than we do, so opportunities are much more restricted, but I make a point of admiring my wife’s bare bottom every night (somethjing requiring determined effort in these cold January nights, when you have to dig through layers of clothing and blankets), and generally make other overtures. That this could grow stale for some people astounds me.
But, is that “making out” or just your normal sex life. I mean, I think my husband and I have a pretty healthy physical relationship, but we don’t make out anymore. You know…the hours of sitting on the couch or in the car fooling around, like when you were 20.
This is more along the lines of what I am talking about… We still have a healthy physical relationship and a pinch here and there is always happening…I’m talking about the “sessions” of kissing…
Well, generally speaking, knowing you can march right upstairs and have a shag kind of takes some of the thrill and mystique out of making out. It’s still fun, though, and yes we do that sometimes. Sometimes we make out just to annoy the kids.
“EEEEEEEW! Mommy and Daddy are acting married again!”
I confess that I have no idea of what the difference between “nmaking out” and “a normal sex life” is. What if your normal sex life IS making out?
The presence of our daughter (not to mention four cats and the conditions of Gainful Employment) puts a severe damper on hours of sitting around anywhere doing anything. But I grab what I can when I can. Literally. Is that opportunistic “making out” or is it Normal Sex Life?
If seeing it makes your child wish to die, it’s making out.
I never found my parents’ kisses embarrasing, but I was pretty embarrassed when my boss and his wife started pecking and calling each other cutiebunny names in the middle of the christmas kids party at the factory, later proceeding to a session of assgrabbing the likes of which I could not remember seeing in a place lit by more than a dead lightbulb and two lavalamps. Their own daughter did her best to look as if any relationship between her and that octopus in the middle of the room was pure coincidence.
That pretty much describes us, and I think that would just be your normal sex life. We have a 3 year old and a 10 month old and we are so with you on taking advantage of opportunities. Do you remember, though, when you’d sit down on the couch on a Friday night with a rented movie and a couple bottles of wine? And the night would end up you two just sitting there for hours kissing, cuddling, etc.? Or when you’d go out to meet friends for dinner and end up having a make-out session in the car before you went into the restaurant? Are you still doing that?
We are still very affectionate and we are usually in that same spot on the couch on a Friday night, cuddled up…but we have two other squirmy people cuddled with us and sippy cups in amongst the wine glasses. (I’m not saying that’s our substitute for a sex life, but it has replaced the extra stuff.)
We make out again . Our kid is 8 now and we’re all getting more rest. Of course it almost always leads to sex, which can be disappointing sometimes when you’re trying to get that back seat of the car feeling back. But mostly it’s just nice.
Last night we tucked the 14-month-old into her crib, and then hit our bedroom.
First there was the sex, then an hour of just lying there making out and general fooling around, then sex again. And again this morning. Don’t quite know why it is, but motherhood really agrees with my wife’s libido.
And yes, there is a fair amout of just “making out” throughout the day. We’ve been together nearly 11 years now.
This thread is screaming for a definition of terms. When people say “sure, we make out all during the day, grab it when we can, a little here and there,” that’s not my definition of making out. And I suspect it’s not the OP’s definition either.
When I think of “making out,” I think of being on the couch or bed, kissing long and hard and deep and passionately while our hands explore and fondle, and maybe there’s some dry humping involved as well — for some period of time. The time element is key here. A good sexy kiss or ass squeezing while you pass each other in the hall is nice, and a good marriage should have plenty of that, but that’s not making out.
What’s long enough to qualify as making out? Who knows. Maybe just a minute or two can qualify if you’re focused, or… sigh… a couple of hours like back when I was dating. Damn, I loved making out. Sometimes more than moving on to actual sex.
As for my answer to the OP, no we don’t. We often do something similar as foreplay when gearing up for intercourse, but it’s not the same as spending most of an evening on the couch kissing and groping. I miss that.
I’m usually not the kiss and tell type, but this seems innocuous enough.
We totally still have steamy make out sessions. Once a week or so I’d say, usually in my husband’s computer lounge on the futon, but every now and then in other places - the car, the kitchen, etc.
Sometimes it leads to sex immediately, often times it doesn’t, it’s just fun to make out with my husband. He’s a great kisser, and I like to think I’m not so bad myself. There’s usually some fondling etc. involved, but lots and lots of kissing is a must.
We’re still relatively newlyweds though. Married 3.5 years, together almost 7 now.
I always saw making out as “I really want to go further, but I don’t know this person well enough yet.” Now that my girlfriend and I have crossed those barriers, there’s no reason to just make out. We have better things we could be doing.
I’m still confused about the definitions. All I can say is that, if we don’t “make out” anymore, by your definitions, it’s purely because time constraints don’t give us the options to, and certainly not because of any lack of desire or interest.
