If it was a chick, maybe; if it was a dude, no fucking way.
Attorney or Lawyer maybe?
It’s irrational not to get extremely angry when your spouse suggests something that he knows beyond all doubt you are completely opposed. For me that suggestion would be extremely severe emotional abuse.
I’m not 100% against the idea, but there are 2, maybe 3 of my wife’s friends who would be good 3-some types. The rest are not… particularly attractive.
Getting angry is not irrational, no. Well, not inexplicable, anyone.
Responding with violence to such a suggestion – violence sufficient to necessitate an ambulance in particular–sure as hell is.
I had a girlfriend a few years back who cheated on me not a month after we became exclusive; she got drunk and made out with an ex-boyfriend, then foolishly admitted it to me in an attempt to come clean. I got pretty damn angry. But I’d have been a miserable fuckwit to hit her over it, don’t you think?
Honestly, if you had been an agreed monogamous relationship and within seconds of the admission of cheating, your response had been to hit her, and I were a judge or juror I would have given you a pass that it was a heat of the moment thing brought on by extreme provacation. Now if you laid in wait three days later with a lead pipe and broke multiple bones over cheating on the level described above, then you would have been a miserable fuckwit.
What if she suggested a 3-way and she was the only woman? Why did you automatically assume the 3-way had to involve another woman and not another guy?
:rolleyes:
Okay, ZPG. There’s this informal board rule you seem to have forgotten about that holds that all the truly ridiculous excuses for committing acts of immature violence are supposed to be proposed by ME. It’s the flying monkey rule. I’ll thank you to respect that.
He made that assumption because of the OP, which specified that the proposed partner be a person he’d be attracted to.
Have you never read ZPGZealot’s posts before? This is totally in character for her.
I also fall into the “decline, and who are you and what have you done with my wife?” camp. I’m not going to judge anyone who wants a threeway, but it’s not for us, and she and I agree on that.
Exactly what I meant.
It’s by definition irrational to get extremely angry about anything. Whether it’s acceptable is another matter. In this case, it’s not, and if you are seriously suggesting you’d attack your husband for suggesting it, you need to seek help.
The wife skews slightly bi-curious with a low-ish libido. We’ve discussed it, we’d be okay with it, and it think it would turn out fine…that said, it actually happening? Rather doubtful.
Given Ive seen the threesome thing happen with the person leaving the original partner for the other guy, I think some concern is warranted.
He thought it would help it get it out of their system. He wuz wrong.
Otara
Threesomes are one of the absolute no discussion subjects in our marriage and my husband knows this. For him to bring up the subject means the marriage is over and he’s just wasted a lot of my time and energy. If he chooses to take that risk, then he has to live with the consequences.
Both of us have been there, done that before we met and both found it to be more fun in the abstract than the concrete (that concrete gets everywhere). I would be quite surprised at this point if he brought up the idea as he runs pretty vanilla these days, but I would be at least willing to talk about it. Of course, at this point there are none of his friends I am remotely attracted to and to the best of my knowledge he feels the same way about mine.
I’d be repulsed. And I’d be worried because it would be completely out of character for my partner.
I voted as interested, but would decline. I don’t think I’d be worried - my husband is pretty direct - but it would be out of character and I’d be concerned that it would cause problems later.
In this regard, my wife is more straight and vanilla than a bean pod, so I would be astonished. I think I’d have about two hours worth of questions all-the-while not committing myself to a yes or no.
You’re so funny with your all-occasion Family Circuses. I have started looking forward to them, even.
I am reminded of a Playboy cartoon I saw way back when. A husband dressed in suit and tie and carrying a briefcase comes home from work, apparently early, because he finds his wife in bed with another woman. The caption has his wife telling him: “Wait! It’s not what you’re hoping!”