As always, “married” is shorthand for “in a committed, monogamous, cohabiting relationship intended to last indefinitely, regardless of legal status or the sexes of the partners.”
How do you and your husband/wife/spouse/partner/Vulcan First Officer divide household chores–cooking, cleaning, etc? Have the two of you talked it out, or is it catch as catch can?
For my wife & me, it’s this:
I do almost all of the cooking. This is because I like cooking and do it for fun, whereas she doesn’t, so the division is less onerous than splitting it 50/50 would be. So any actual meal creation (as opposed to popping a frozen pizza in the oven) is mine. As a result of my doing most of the cooking, I also do most of the grocery shopping, for reasons left as an exercise of the class.
My wife does all the KITCHEN cleaning. We clean the other rooms 50/50 as much as possible, but the fact that she’s home with the baby probably means more of it falls on her than on me. But on Saturdays, when we’re both home, we do that together. I try to beat her to the bathrooms, my thought being that’s more onerous than the living and bedroom; it’s my way of making up for the tons of literal shit she must be dealing with Monday-Friday.
Child-care, in theory, is fifty-fifty, though the simple fact that she’s at home with the baby means that she does far more.
I’m in charge of keeping the cars in good order (by which I mean getting them to the shop as necessary). She’s in charge of anything carpentry related, and I stand by to offer whatever tools she requires. Electrical & plumbing problems are handled by professionals.
Anybody else want to share?