My workplace seems to have gone completely overboard on equality/diversity/inclusion just recently. I truly have no issue with EDI, I work in academia and we have an extremely diverse environment here which is great and should be encouraged, celebrated and protected.
My boss has been off sick since December, so we have a stand-in manager who is a lovely person but really annoys me on one minor level. We have been instructed to change our email signature blocks to something standard across College, which is fine. In the block, it specifically states our preferred pronouns. Mine are she/her. It’s very obvious. Stand-in manager insists on referring to me as “they” when I have made it clear that’s not my preferred pronoun. If they want us to state our preferences, bloody well use them!
Nothing mini about this, but I don’t know another forum that fits my emotional state, and I don’t have the energy to write about it right now, so here goes:
GODDAMNIT, I was supposed to get thirty-six years with you, Joan, not less than TEN WEEKS!
Are they using the term as a generic pronoun, as it appears you are here? Do they use it as a generic pronoun for everyone? I don’t know that I would even notice the use of “they/them”, as they can be neutral generic?
Stupid eye place seems to be running a scam. They are making $540 total ($45/month for 12 months), which he admitted was more than he thought. And I’ve looked it up and that is utterly ridiculous for what he is getting. I’m trying to believe it must be some misunderstanding, but I’m pissed. Especially since I finally got an appointment at the same eye place, the one I’ve always used.
I’m stressed as fuck about it, too, as I’m afraid Dad is too ashamed to call them and try to straighten it out, and he definitely won’t let me do it. But we really can’t afford this. And he needs to do it quickly.
Sorry, my use of “they” was to cover the entire institution. Bit like the royal “we”
She uses it for everyone and everything - what really got to be was that it went all through the paperwork for my annual review, so before I signed off my bit, I changed all of the “they/their” back to “she/her”. Petty, but it made me feel better.
kaylasdad99 big hugs to you, I wish there was something that would make it hurt less and help the healing but I know there isn’t. Just remember there are people out there thinking of you and wishing you well.
What’s with politeness gone astray? Even older people. We are staying in mid priced motels that have breakfast. People pushing, knocking into each other and me. No excuse mes, pleases, thank yous to people who are stocking the breakfasts. One guy even asked me to see where the cooked sausages are. WTF! I was standing back so I wouldn’t get spilled on.
