Maybe it wouldn’t have turned out this way if you didn’t want to be snappy and sarcastic with everyone who disagrees with you. YOU liked it when YOU worked retail, so everyone must, right?
Like Bosstone said, you didn’t just say that it was busy for a Wednesday (nyuk nyuk nyuk)… when she didn’t react the way you thought she should you kept up with the laffs for your own amusement for what reason I cannot imagine. I guess maybe because you’re the customer and you can? You persisted and then had the gall to come here and expect everyone to agree with you that she was the wet blanket. A few people did agree with you, but a lot of people didn’t. Most of those people have gotten your vitriol and sarcasm. Yes, yes… it’s clearly everyone else that’s wrong here.
No I didn’t… I retracted it before submitting admitting that I had gone too far. Again, I’ve been here 10 years and have neve seen something so inocent go so out of line. I guess I don’t have as much in common with the people here as I thought I had.
No, I think you’re wrong. If you’d retracted before submitting it wouldn’t be there in our quotes, would it?
You started out making fun of him by changing his user name to “Chimp” because you’re just that funny and you’re just getting better. All of this over a difference of opinion regarding an interaction at the grocery store.
Um… yes you did. I saw it. Sleeps With Butterflies saw it. There could be other posters that saw it, too.
You are again blaming the audience and refusing to admit that maybe, just maybe, you don’t have the social skills you think you do. Accept that you were rude and move on.
Dude, seriously, do a search here for tipping. If you don’t think people on a message board can blow even the most minor situation into a full-fledged drama of the week, you really haven’t been reading.
I do think some of the posts made early on were unnecessarily harsh, but you were only responding to the vitriol and not to what was actually being said, particularly by the more reasonable posters, and the sarcasm and snark kept escalating on both sides.
You told a lame joke, it bombed with your audience. That’s not your audience’s fault. Life goes on.
So what would you both like me to do to absolve this terrible indiscretion?
I tried to be social with a cashier. I guess I shouldn’t do that again…
Yes, I got mad and called you an ass hole… and I edited it out, but you were apparently so quick that you caught me before I could remove my mistake. I will forever regret this indescresion.
So please tell me why this inocent tale of a conversation I had with a cashier at a store that I go to many times a week turned into the vitrol you have. It was supposed to be fun. Is this truely the tone of the dope these days?
Its the busiest grocery shopping day of the year. It was late, she was tired. She’s ready to go home. You come along all perky and full of banter. She’s just not in the mood.
Or, maybe she has something going on in her life that made her less than cheerful. Maybe her dog just died, or she has no one to spend the holiday with. You never know.
Some people like to joke around and converse with everyone they encounter. Some people just aren’t like that. I am pretty shy. I smile, I’m friendly, but I don’t joke around with the grocery clerks. That doesn’t make me a bad person. Everyone is just different. You cant expect everyone you encounter to enjoy the witty small-talk.
Another possibility, judging from her responses to your playful cluelessness… maybe she just thought you were truly clueless.
Well, for a start, you can quit with the self-martyr act. It was just a little exchange that went wrong, and going from there to “I guess everyone should just be grumpy and non-social” is just being a weeeeeeee melodramatic.
It’s NOT ABOUT BEING SOCIAL. It’s about being obnoxious, and persisting with a joke which someone obviously didn’t find funny.
I worked retail, and while sometimes corny jokes were amusing, on the night before Turkey Day, I probably would have just given you a vague smile, and then inwardly thought you were a dork. Or something.
It’s not one or the other. It’s not a choice between telling the same kind of jokes or being a humorless jerk. You can still be friendly, without being persistant when you see someone obviously being annoyed. Like, “Hey, I know it’s a rough night, hang in there.” Or, “Busy, huh? Yeah, I’ve been there – I hope it gets better for you soon. You have a nice holiday.”
(God help you though if you’re one of those idiots who say, “You shouldn’t have to be here today!” when a store is open on a holiday. THOSE people need to be tarred and feathered!)
I’d say to go find yourself a cross, but you seem to have already done that.
The above is waaaay more snarky that I like to post in MPSIMS, but the guy called me a chimp and an asshole. An asshole I will forgive, but I ain’t no goddamn shit-throwing chimp. I’m a monkey, damnit. There’s a difference.
This thing needs to either be closed or moved to the pit
So please explain to me what I should have said. I didn’t expect to start a major conversation. As I’ve said before a smile would have been fine. The funny thing is that the conversation as it was worked out perfectly fine. I thought it was funny, and according to your comments she obviously thought I was a jerk. I went home with my groceries and what I thought was a funny story. I doubt she has spent as much time on this topic as we have.
Ok Monkey with a gun… I’m truelly sorry I called you a chimp. As I said I tried to retract the other comment before it could be published. I guess I’ve never had a thread that I’ve been involved with where it started out as fun and it turned into me being called an ass for what I thought was normal behavior.
I won’t say any thing more since I don’t want to be accused of getting on my cross. I just have a problem with people thinking that this is such a big deal.
Not to beat this any further into the ground, but hey, you asked.
“I guess you’re right, she probably was having a long day and it was kind of a lame joke. Oh well.”
It’s not even like you should feel any embarrassment or shame for having inflicted such a horrible monstrosity upon an innocent. Like I said, you tried to be witty, it didn’t work, life goes on. Happens to everyone. It’s the martyrdom that really started blowing things out of control.
Re: The insult: Spud edited it out within the five-minute window, even though others jumped all over it during that window. No warning issued, because Spud self-corrected.
